Can you think of ten million reasons to love someone?
Yeah, me either. Mostly because it would take too much time to count that high. (Or because I’m too lazy to count that high…but we’ll go with the former!)
I did an exercise one year with my husband, though. Hm. Okay, it wasn’t exactly with him. Maybe for him would be a better way of putting it. I made a list of all the things I respected about the man I was married to. That might not sound like the same thing as love, but I’ve been assured that in man talk it holds as much weight as a why-I-love-you list would hold in woman talk. (Relationships 101: Men and women speak different languages.)
The funny thing?
Once I got started, I almost couldn’t stop. As soon as I made a conscious effort to put my focus on my husband’s positive traits, I kept thinking of others. The list went on for pages. And pages. And pages. (Yeah, I’m that girl who would pass notes 20 pages long in high school history class. Don’t even get me started on how long a note I could write in English class!)
Sometimes it’s simply too easy for us to get distracted by everything we don’t like.
The things he’s said he would do…but then didn’t. The things I need him to do that he knows I need him to do…that he just won’t make time to do. The lunch I packed for him that he didn’t bother to eat. Yet another time he’s been oblivious to my hurt feelings.
That list could probably go on forever, too, if we chose to write it.
If we permit our minds to dwell on all the negative things, our hearts will fill up with disappointment and bitterness. If we train, cajole, or drag kicking and screaming (Hey, we’re all in a different place!) our minds to focus on everything good about our significant others, our hearts will follow.
So where will you allow your mind to go today? Or better yet, where will you take it? Just remember, your heart will follow.
Finding ten million reasons to love someone isn’t exactly the plot of the book below, but it’s still a subject I like to talk about. I hope you spend a little time today thinking about the good in the people you’ve let close to you.
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Money talks, and the way she spends hers tells him all he needs to know…
Richard needs to find a woman he can trust, and he needs to find her fast. He doesn’t have time to waste on getting to know people, which means dating and interviewing are out of the question. So how can he get past that initial mask of good behavior to learn what people are really like? Easy! Give them ten million dollars and watch to see what they do with it.
Genevieve is a free-lance journalist who talks to herself, constantly forgets to put appointments on her calendar, and can’t go anywhere without being asked to take a survey. Why on earth is Richard interested in her? She doesn’t know it yet, but he has ten million reasons…