Am I the only one who thinks our nation has fallen off the wagon when it comes to common courtesy?
It hurts to see people so, well, RUDE.
Dictionary.com defines rude as this: “
Time after time, I encounter customers who cannot seem to control their tongues when something the clerk/cashier/waitress can’t control happens.
Of course, I’ve been guilty of it myself at times, but I try REALLY hard not to.
And then there are the rude drivers, who want to get where they’re going RIGHT NOW, and nothing is going to stop them. We won’t go there.
How about the husband who disparages his wife?
Or the mother who scolds her child excessively. I’m not talking about a proper scolding where the child has done something wrong and is being corrected in love, but the one where mom is degrading the child with things like, “You never do anything right. I can’t take you anywhere.” And the like. I know you’ve heard it. It breaks my heart.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7(ESV), “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
The Greek word used here is aschemoneo (say that three times fast, or maybe just once, lol). It means to act improperly or unseemly; to behave unbecomingly or even dishonorably.
But Love is NOT RUDE.
The opposite of rude (according to thesaurus.com): decent, gentle, nice, polite, refined, sophisticated, mannerly.
The fruit of the spirit comes to mind… Galatians 5:22-23(ESV), “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.”
These are what we should strive for.
Now, just a reminder because God brought it to my mind, which means SOMEONE needs to hear it.
God is LOVE
That means He is not rude. He will not be discourteous or impolite. He will not be rough, harsh, or unmannerly.
He is decent, gentle, and polite.
And you know what else?
God loves YOU!
Romans 5:5b(NLT), “For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love.”
I was speaking with a friend the other day about raising up our children. She spoke about praying with them at bedtime, reading the Bible, etc. I’ll be honest… we read the Bible together at dinner, but I’ve never been one to pray with my kids at bedtime. It’s just not something I ever remembered to do. And yet, most of my kids have a FIRM foundation in who they are in Christ.
I truly believe this is the case because I don’t necessarily DO religious things, but because I LIVE my relationship with Jesus.
It’s sometimes messy.
I ask for forgiveness.
I love Him with all of who I am, and I hope it pours from me (“my cup overflows” Ps. 23:5c (ESV)), not only onto my kids, but to all those around me.
So as much as we TELL our kids to not be rude (or whatever), it is far better to SHOW them.
Do you want them to show love? Show love!
Do you want them to not be rude? Don’t be rude!
Do you want them to pick up after themselves? Pick up after yourself!
OUCH! Talking to myself here, btw.
When I started this post, I wasn’t sure where it was going, but in my rambling way, I hope you were blessed with my words. If you haven’t read parts 1-3 and would like to, click here: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3.