When I started this series, I had no idea where it was going to go. I didn’t have a plan. I just felt called to write what God says about love.
So far we’ve covered:
- Love is patient
- Love keeps no record of wrongs
- Love is kind
- Love is not rude
- Love is not irritable
- Love is not jealous
- Love is not boastful or proud
But now I have a plan. I want to finish the series in December, so today we will focus on…
Other versions say things like, “does not insist on its own way,” or “is not self-serving,” or “is not selfish.”
What does that look like? How do we not be self-seeking?
I mean, let’s be honest. We’re all selfish creatures. We like things our way. We want them done when we want them done and how we want them done.
Honestly, it’s in the training. You have to TRAIN yourself to stop thinking solely of yourself. If you’re a mom, you already do this to a certain extent. How many nights do we get up to take care of a sick or crying child at the expense of our own sleep?
But even if you’re not a mom, I’m sure you can think of instances when you’ve thought of others above yourself. Did you allow a person in the grocery line to go before you because you had a cart full, and he/she had only a few items? Did you wave a person through at a stop sign when you didn’t have to? Have you smiled at a stranger? (Remember, I challenged you to smile in my post The Attitude of the Heart.)
All of those are unselfish acts. We’re trying to brighten someone else’s day.
I struggle with this some days. I give and give to my family, sometimes with little to no appreciation. There are times when I just want someone to think about ME. I want ME to be cared for. And that’s okay.
Once in a while.
But I can’t live there.
I can’t always focus on me.
And that’s what this section of the verse is telling us.
Another verse comes to mind…
Phil. 2:3, “Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.” (ESV)
It says it all, or rather reiterates, the truth.
Count others more significant than yourselves.
Love is not self-seeking.
Now to live it. Daily. Hourly. Every minute. Every second.
It’s definitely something to think about and work on.