I have a friend who makes jam. Strawberry jam, to be exact. It’s amazing, too — definitely the best jam I’ve ever had in my life.
I asked her one time why she goes through all the effort of making her own jam, and her answer was pretty simple. People like it, and her husband loves it.
She makes giant batches and gives small jars away to anyone who comes to her house. Friends, family, and neighbors who happen to end up with a jar are simply blessed, though, by her love for her husband.
Making jam is a lot of work. It’s also kind of expensive. It has to be a labor of love, and in this case, it is. Her husband loves her jam, so my friend makes jam.
She might be on to something, too. She and her husband have been married for over fifty years now.
Neither of them is perfect. They don’t always agree. Sometimes they clash, and sometimes those clashes get a little heated. At the end of the day, though, they can always break bread and have some jam.
Isn’t that a beautiful picture of love?
I’m not perfect. My husband isn’t, either. We disagree now and then, and sometimes we do a fabulous job of irritating each other. At the end of the day, though, we have… Okay, we don’t have jam. But we do have Oreos. He likes the inside. I like the outside. We’re a perfect match.
Eons ago — or at least what feels like eons — I started praying for and about the man I was going to marry someday. I don’t remember all of those prayers, but I remember specifically telling God on more than one occasion that I didn’t need a perfect man. I just needed the man who was perfect for me, and I was trusting in Him to know who that was.
Here we are, twenty-plus years later. We’ve had good days and bad days. We’ve had more laugh-out-loud moments than I can count. We’ve also had moments that felt like we were on some sort of crazy psychedelic corkscrew roller coaster.
At the end of the day, though, we have Oreos, and sometimes an Oreo is exactly the right way to say I love you.
What do you do – whether it’s a romantic relationship or otherwise – to show the special people in your life that you love them despite the differences you may have had on any particular day?