Sometimes love whispers. It grows slowly, sweetly, over many months and years.
Other times, love shouts! It can happen in an hour, a day, a week.
I believe it can be just as real, just as true, no matter how it happens.
In many of my books, my characters fall in love fast! From first meeting to acknowledging a love that will lead to marriage can take no more than a few weeks. One of my stories actually happens all in one day (though that couple had known each other all their lives).
My latest book, Teapots & Tiaras, releasing in the Whispers of Love boxed set this summer, is another story where despite a number of obstacles and differences to overcome, things happen quickly. Anita goes from initial dislike to “Oh no, I’m starting to fall in love with him” in a week, just four meetings!
Too fast to be realistic? I don’t know. I do believe it’s possible to fall in love and commit to a person quickly, but maybe that’s because I did!
Love flares up like a blazing fire, a very ardent flame.
No amount of water can quench love;
a raging flood cannot drown it out.
Song of Songs 8:6-7 (Voice)
The fastest love story I ever heard was from a friend’s boyfriend. He told me how his parents had met just once, the night before his father was due to ship out. The next day his mother impulsively dumped everything in her life to follow his father, who was in the Navy, half-way around the world to be there to meet him at his next port. They married straight away, and three grown-up kids and thirty years later were still very happy together. Now put that in a story and try to make it believable!
I didn’t quite fall in love that fast. My husband and I would never have met normally, our paths didn’t cross in any way. But I was unexpectedly sent to a different hospital for a single day, and given the task of working beside him, in preparation for a training session I’d be presenting. He seemed so totally not my type. He said a few things suggesting opinions I completely disagreed with. Reason and logic told me I should dislike him.
But for some reason, I didn’t.
Far from it.
We spent all our lunch break talking. After our shift finished, we stood outside talking for hours. When it got dark, we reluctantly agreed we should leave, but exchanged phone numbers.
Three weeks later, we’d spoken on the phone, sent each other texts, and met several times, talking for ages over coffee or walks around town. We still hadn’t had a proper date. We hadn’t kissed. Yet I knew what I’d never felt for anyone else before. I loved him, and felt sure this was the man God intended me to spend the rest of my life with. Only a month later, we were engaged and planning our wedding.
Our marriage hasn’t been a fairy-tale happy-ever-after by any means. We’ve faced illness, job loss, emotional upheaval, financial challenges. We’ve done the whole “for better, for worse; for richer, for poorer; in sickness and in health” thing. But we’ve committed to the “to love and to cherish, till death us do part” bit as well. Despite the difficulties, I still know for sure this is the man God wants me loving and learning with for as long as we both shall live!
I’m learning to work at staying in love. I’m learning patience. I’m learning to love with a stubbornness and determination that isn’t based on how I feel but on what I’ve committed to. I’m learning to lean on God and trust in His strength when I can’t trust my own.
Whether it happens slow or fast, whether it whispers or shouts, I wonder if that’s what we really mean when we say we’ve fallen in love? We recognise, in our truest hearts, God working in our lives through that other person. We recognise that this is the person who can teach us the life lessons God wants us to learn. We recognise that with this person, our heart can open deeper and wider and more completely than it ever can with anyone else. We decide to commit to keeping on loving this person, allowing the fast burning flame to grow over time into something unquenchable.
Hopefully, the other person makes that same commitment.
I believe that’s how it can be. That’s the sort of love I want to live. That’s the sort of love I want to write about.
Love that’s not necessarily easy, but love that lasts.
I’d love for you to share your thoughts on whether we can fall in love too fast, maybe even your own true love story? All comments made on this post by June 8th will go in a prize draw and one will be chosen at random to win the ebook of the winner’s choice from my published books (excluding multi-author boxed sets).
If you’d like to read Teapots & Tiaras, you can get it, along with 11 other lovely new-release contemporary Christian romances, in the Whispers of Love set, at the special preorder price of 99c.