A year or so ago, I was standing in the foyer of our church. I’m sure I was in the middle of doing something or going somewhere, but the exact memory escapes me. What I do recall from that moment – in fact, the only reason I remember it – is seeing our pastor and his wife cross paths. They were heading in opposite directions, and they high-fived as they passed one another. (Not the adrenaline-pumped high five you think of in relation to sports. It was a touch more graceful than that.)
That’s only part of the story, though. From my vantage point, I saw the pastor’s face as he noticed his wife coming toward him.
His face lit up.
There’s something special about that, isn’t there?
As it happens, the pastor and his family were relatively new to our church at that time, and I was still getting to know them. That particular encounter was the first real insight I had into their marriage, which is likely why it’s remained such a vivid memory.
When I think about the kind of men and women that I write in my stories, I think about things like the look on my pastor’s face as he noticed his wife — and about their high five. I think about the different ways that people show love and communicate with one another.
Relationships are complex and beautiful. At the heart of every enduring love story is the tale of two people and how they have made their lives fit together.
Someone once asked me why I chose romance when I decided to write my first book. Honestly, my reasons for first writing romance are a little bit foolish with a healthy dash of naivety thrown in for good measure.
As I went on to write my second and third books, though, why did I stick with romance? That’s the real question.
I stayed with romance because I discovered how much I love to explore the relationship dynamics of different people. I enjoy watching people interact in real life, and I thrive when I get to explore those same relational interactions with pen and paper.
What about you? Do you have any unique ways that you communicate with your significant other? Are there any wordless ways that you show one another love?