This will be my last post at InspyRomance for a while, and I’m sad to go. I started posting here when the site launched and it’s been a lot of fun. Right now I have too many commitments and need to let a few things go. That being said, I’m hopeful I’ll be back at a later date when life has calmed down some! It’s been a real joy to be a part of such a great group of romance writers.
Speaking of romance, I’ve had a few thoughts about marriage lately. The baby of our family is getting married in May and watching her go through the process of falling in love and becoming engaged—and now planning a wedding is a little surreal!
I’m the oldest of the granddaughters, and Kaleigh is the youngest—she was born when I was in college. It’s hard to believe she’s all grown up (and hard to accept that I’ve gone and gotten OLD! Ha) but she’s engaged to a great guy and I believe they will have a wonderful life together.
As she begins the flurry of exciting events leading up to her May wedding, I can’t help but stop to think about the things I want her to know about marriage. I am a “newlywed” myself—I was one of those who didn’t find “the one” until a little later in life. We’ve been married for two and a half years, and even though that is not a lot of years, I still feel like I have knowledge to share. (fun fact: Kaleigh is an amazing makeup artist and she did my makeup and hair for my own wedding! She has a YouTube channel where she sometimes posts makeup tutorials…check it out!)
Here’s my best relationship advice—that I think can apply to anyone, not just those about to be married!
- Be appreciative. Saying thank you—even for the small things—is important!
2. You are a team. Act like it. Never, ever talk badly about your spouse or belittle them in public.
3. Choose your battles. This has been a big lesson that I’ve had to learn. In the great scheme of things, a toilet seat that gets left up or dirty clothes that don’t make it to the hamper are not important things to argue about. My grandmother told me once that she and my grandpa spent a lot of time arguing over taking the trash out. She told me after grandpa had died that she wished she’d just let it go—and she encouraged me to do the same. “Let it go” is something I have found to be very helpful in my life—in pretty much all relationships, not just marriage! You can’t take back words after you say them—you don’t want to get into a heated argument over emptying the dishwasher and say something you can’t take back.
4. When your spouse comes home, greet them. This one seems simple, but there will be times you’re in the middle of something else. Stop what you’re doing and greet your spouse! I’ve found that if I take the time (or if he takes the time, depending on the situation) to greet my husband with a kiss and a hug when he walks through the door, it automatically makes us both happier. For those few seconds all the “background noise” of life can wait.
5. Pray for each other. There will be hard times…it may not seem like it when you’re still in the early stages of your relationship, but in life and in marriage, things happen. It’s much easier to navigate those things when you’re praying daily for each other.
What about you? What is the best piece of relationship advice you have to give—or the best advice you’ve been given?