Confession: I’m a romantic at heart.
But… it tends to be one-sided sometimes. I tend to WANT to be romanced by my husband, but don’t always do a great job of romancing him.
I think this is because of the whole lie we’re fed sometimes growing up…. “Women want romance, men want sex.”
Eh, so maybe stereotypically that might be right.
But without getting too personal, I’m here to tell you…
Sometimes your man needs romance…
And women can DEFINITELY like and want sex too (and really, SHOULD!)
I’m realizing that I need to do a better job of romancing my husband, and I’m betting there are a few other women who are in the same boat.
Here are a few goofy things I’ve come up with just to start the discussion. Would LOVE for other women to add their ideas!
1.) LET HIM PICK THE MOVIE. Okay, fine, maybe it doesn’t SOUND romantic. But I tend to want to watch my rom-coms or sappy movies or “my” kind of movies, and make him watch what HE wants by himself or with his buddies. So I’m finding sometimes when we sit down to watch a movie, it’s nice to let him pick something he wants, even if I hate it. It’s an act of love, and it makes him feel loved. And isn’t that what romancing is all about? So, buck up and watch some kung-fu or something ladies!
2.) WRITE HIM A LOVE NOTE! Slip it in his lunch or his wallet or someplace he’ll see it during the day. My hubby used to do this for ME all the time our first years of marriage, but fell out of habit. Sometimes it makes me sad, but I also realize that DUH, I’ve rarely done this for HIM either. And if that note happens to be a little, uh, more intimate to make him smile extra big? So be it. Romance away, ladies!
3.) CANDLELIGHT DINNER! Most nights at dinner, it’s rare that we’re eating more than Mac & cheese and I’m excited when I remember a vegetable. Cooking is NOT my forte. But I love it when he surprises me with a romantic meal. What if I did the same back at him? Made him something nice, decorate the dining room all cozy and intimate, let the kids help even, then send them upstairs with a pizza so hubby can come home to a clean, warm, romantic dinner? Yes, I think this could be good!
4.) GO PLAY SOMETHING SPORTS OR SOMETHING WITH HIM! My husband isn’t a sporty guy, but he LOVES disc golf. I rarely go with him, and he rarely gets to go, because we have 4 kids and our life is just demanding sometimes. But I’m thinking… it might be kinda nice to go and play with him, just the two of us. Doesn’t matter if it takes me 30 times to hit the target basket thingy. And sneaking a few kisses in between? BONUS!
5.) DO SOMETHING UNEXPECTED! This is the equivalent of a fill-in-the-blank. Our husbands are all different. Romancing is all about showing love in a passionate, unexpected way. (If you had a candlelight dinner ever night, it’d cease to be romantic after a while, right?) So take a good look at your husband. What are his likes/dislikes? What is something that would appeal JUST TO HIM, that would show him how much you love him, that would totally blow his socks off? Do that:-)
So what about you? What are some (PG) ideas for romancing your husband (or even your significant other for those unmarried)?
Nothing is more romantic than figuring out and acting on your spouse’s love language. :)
Elizabeth Maddrey says
I love sending little text message through the day – nothing that’ll get him in trouble if someone sees it(!) but just a little note to remind him that I’m thinking of him.