“If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, ask whatever you wish, and it shall be done for you.” –John 15:7
“Abide in Me.” The three words with which Jesus invited his disciples to place their faith in His love as they walked to the Garden of Gethsemane that last fateful night. He wasn’t just talking to the disciples though. No, He was talking to us, too. And these three simple words, if understood and acted upon, can make all the difference in a Christian’s life. The problem is that many of us have never really even noticed they were spoken—much less taken their message to heart.
What does “abide” mean anyway? According to Webster’s Dictionary, “abide” means to remain. That makes sense, remain with Me, stay with Me, stay by My side. Ah, but Jesus doesn’t say “with,” He says “in.” Simply put Jesus is not saying He wants us to walk with him, or be with Him. He is saying He wants us to remain in Him—as close as we could ever get to actually to Him without being Him.
This is just semantics, you say. A play on words. What possible significance could such a tiny distinction make? I can tell you that in my life, it has made all the difference.
I must confess first that I didn’t put words to this phenomenon for a very long time. I knew it was in my life, but explaining it wasn’t easy to do. At the time I called it “faith.” As a writer, I put great faith in the belief that God would light my path, that if I surrendered the project to His care, I would have the right words at the right time.
The opportunities to use this faith were boundless. For example, when my two year old deleted five pages of the new manuscript I was working on, I distinctly remember saying, “Well, I guess God didn’t want it said that way.” Or when my publicist threw a major curve into my plans by saying the cover for my second book (which I had chosen) would never work, and we had no choice but to change it. True it took me awhile of being furious with her before I realized that it was God, not she, that had a better idea. Once I surrendered to that understanding, the new cover came into focus, and it was far and away better than the original.
For several years these were the types of ways I tried to “abide in Him” although “faith” was probably the better term because I was still relying on some outside entity—not a spirit that permeated me.
Recently, however, I came into contact with Bruce Wilkinson’s Secrets of the Vine, and my understanding took a giant leap forward. In Secrets, Wilkinson talks about the phrase “abide in me” and what Jesus really meant when he spoke those words. After reading that book, I was having a discussion with a friend about my writing. For the first time ever this friend is getting to experience the writing process with me as she is reading the book I am working on as I am writing it.
The strange thing is: it is not just she who is growing through this project as I am now getting to experience the writing process in a whole new light. A light which has opened my eyes to what has been happening for years. When it would happen in the past, however, I couldn’t adequately explain it to anyone else and therefore it was easier to overlook or to not take the time to really examine. Nonetheless, I believe this experience is the best definition for “abiding in me” around.
A couple of examples: during the course of writing my current book, I was introduced to two songs that so embody the book that their entrance into my life could not be called mere “coincidence.” Also, I received an email that depicted the exact kind of person characterized in the book in a way that visually detailed the precise message I am trying to portray. A sign possibly that I am on the right track?
Perhaps most intriguing I received a magazine which gave me in perfect form the insight I needed to understand why this character was acting the way he was. Of course, everyone receives magazines every day, and it was one that I was subscribed to, so that shouldn’t be all that noteworthy. Except for this: the post office had changed our address and that particular magazine was one I hadn’t changed the address on yet. I hadn’t received that magazine for four weeks, and when that copy got here, it had the old address, which the post office had said they refused to deliver to anymore. More than that, I haven’t received either of the next two editions although I have now changed the address. So, why then did that one come through with exactly what I needed despite every obstacle against it?
I think the answer can be found in those three words: abide in me. Tell me honestly, do we really think that some little post office crisis can keep God’s plan from working out in our lives? If you do, then I challenge you to question how many of these “coincidences” in your life you are either missing out on—or overlooking right at this very moment.
As a firm believer in these words, I can tell you that if you will take them to heart… If you will accept that Jesus is not just an “out there entity” that you can have faith in but truly a spirit that permeates your very life… If you will truly accept His presence in every aspect of your life, every minute of every day, then He will abide in you, and your life will never again be the same.
After all it was His promise.
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Wemble says
Hi Staci, thanks for sharing your thoughts. My favourite hymn is Abide with Me, so this reminder to abide in [God] is beautiful.
Blessings:)
Colleen says
I can really relate to what you wrote. Sometimes things happen that leads you in to the direction you need to go. I believe God shows us signs and he silently speaks to us. It’s just up to us to open our eyes and listen and realize that things are happen for a reason.
Renate says
Hi Staci! Thanks for your inspiring and insightful words. As we “Abide IN Him,” may we see God’s loving guidance in our lives. Best wishes and happy writing.
Paula Marie says
This is indeed one of my (many) favorite verses! Thank you for sharing!
Staci Stallings says
So true! Enjoy your day! God bless & thanks for stopping by!
Staci Stallings says
Amen to that! It’s just in life, you are rarely taught to do that and often so busy, you can’t hear that still small voice. This one was a good reminder for ME!
Staci Stallings says
Thanks so much for stopping by today, Renate! Have a blessed day!
Staci Stallings says
HAHHAH, Paula. I’m with you. This is my favorite…. No, that is my favorite…. the one I REALLY love is…. :)
Have an awesome day!
MFLiteraryWorks says
Staci,
Thanks, I needed this reminder. So often I let outside things overwhelm me and occupy my time. I need to really remember to abide in Christ. Let him fill my days and life. Not let circumstances create fear or strife, but look for God’s hand in it all.
Interestingly, right before I read your post I was watching a video by Casting Crowns of a song that was running through my head. This song talks about taking our struggles and laying them down at God’s feet knowing He’s right there with us.
If you get a chance you might want to watch it. It’s called Oh, My Soul.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DjNZf878ISQ&feature=em-subs_digest-vrecs
I was given Bruce’s book a while back and I never really read it. Now I think I’ll pick it up and dig into it.
Thanks again!
Staci Stallings says
I know “Oh, My Soul” very well. A friend of mine sent me this video shortly after it was released saying it reminded her so much of “Dance with Me” another one of my books.
I also know so well about busyness and learning to let God order your day. I often say now that God is a great secretary because He always knows exactly what I need to be doing when I need to be doing it. He’s GREAT at ordering your days and your life if you will take your hands off the wheel and just let Him.
Have a GREAT day and thanks so much for stopping by. God bless!
Shannon Taylor Vannatter says
Great post, Staci. I love when I’m reading the Bible and some word or verse I’ve read a jillion times suddenly speaks to me in a new way.
Staci Stallings says
Me too! Most of the time for me, it’s when I’m writing the VBS skits. All of a sudden, I see a story I thought I knew come alive in a whole new way!
Thanks so much for stopping by. Have a blessed day!
Andrea B. Brooks says
I appreciate your blog…. He is the only one I will and can abide in. He is my all in all. I love the verse that comes with your blog.
Each time I read a verse they speak to me in different ways and also touch me and help me grow in Christ.
juliearduini says
Staci,
Abide is my word for the year and I’ve really struggled to grasp what it means for me personally. This post shed a lot of light. Thank you for your obedience!