Today is my 10-year wedding anniversary. <3
We’ve been through a lot in ten years. Besides the challenges of blending families with six kids, we’ve survived three Achilles surgeries, one heart surgery, two house floods, three totaled vehicles, cancer, and more. I don’t think this is what anyone dreams of when they promise to stick together through better or worse, but I would do it all again to be with Jim.
The struggle is what makes “happily-ever-after” so desirable. We can still be happy in spite of life’s pain.
If you read any of the reviews for my rom/com coming out later this month, you’ll see that many people mention the ending. Husband Auditions doesn’t have your traditional happily-ever-after, but I think it’s better.
My intent for this story was to write a character who feels like a failure because she’s the last of her friends to be single. But as she’s using the list of ways to find a husband printed in the 1950s, she’s also watching her first friend who got married go through a separation. Because of this experience, she chooses not to simply look for a man who will make her fairytale come true but for a man who will still love her when the fairytale falls apart.
My fairytale fell apart the year my first husband and I celebrated our ten-year anniversary. I’d like to think I’ve learned a few things this time around, and I want to use what I’ve learned to help other women make better choices.
So, in honor of Husband Auditions as well as the man who won the role of husband in my life, I thought I’d share something I’ve written that is even more important than this book. My wedding vows.
I promise to honor you like a hero.
I promise to value your dreams and make sacrifices to support them.
I promise to guide our children toward significance.
I promise to be real and true even when the real me is not pretty.
I promise to laugh at and learn from our mistakes.
I promise to fight beside you in life’s foxholes.
I promise to dance with you on the sunny days and cry with you when it rains.
I promise to always, always protect your heart.
And I promise to run by your side as we chase after God.
No matter your relationship status, you can be happy. That’s the message I want to come through all my novels. God is enough because God is love.
And today I’m so grateful He gives second chances.