Even though they were a little before my time, the Beatles are one of my all-time favorite groups. My mom had every single album of theirs and we used to play them when I was young. (side note: I still have a record player and lots of records and really, you can’t beat the sound of vinyl…)
Their song, All You Need is Love is a great one and so catchy! If I hear it, I find myself still singing it days later. All You Need is Love. Love. Love is All You Need. (raise your hand if you are singing along!)
Fifteen of the novels I’ve written are love stories. I guess you can say that I love love. I got up in the wee hours to watch Prince Harry marry Meghan Markle (just like I got up to watch Prince William and Catherine Middleton’s wedding and even though I was young at the time, Charles and Diana). The other morning as I sat riveted in front of the TV, I couldn’t help but cry as Meghan walked down the aisle. Because I want them to make it! I want them to have found happiness and true love and a long lifetime together. So there I was, sitting in front of my TV in my pajamas soooo early in the morning rooting for them and their love.
I think that love of love is what drives me to write romance.
But even so, I have to disagree with John, Paul, George, and Ringo just a little bit.
Two weeks ago today, we moved into a new home. (we are still surrounded by boxes so although we have “moved” we aren’t done “moving in!”) Since then, my husband and I have unloaded a lot of furniture, built two fences, and put together a large above ground swimming pool that promised to be easy but in reality was not. And I joked to someone recently that we’d done those things and remained married so I was calling it a win.
But that got me to thinking! (my writer’s brain just can’t help it sometimes) Love is not always easy. It’s not always flowers and swoon-worthy kisses and terms of endearment. Sometimes it’s building a fence by flashlight after working all day (him) so that the other person’s (my) beloved dog will have more room to run. J
And the idea that “all you need is love” is definitely missing some important ingredients. Like kindness. Patience. Communication. Commitment. Prayer.
Relationships need all of those things to thrive and survive.
My next release, A Reservation for Romance features characters who have both been married previously. It’s been interesting to tell their story, because I think they know better than any of my previous characters just how important those other ingredients are. They’ve known love before, which has made them both much more cautious as they seek it again. They know that love alone isn’t quite all they need.
As for me, I will confess that selling/buying/moving and all that goes along with those things have been stressful. It would have been easy to have taken out my frustrations by snapping at my husband (and vice versa). But at the end of the day, even after being exhausted from working and moving and building projects, I’ve reminded myself that we’re on the same team. Moving is stressful, but those stressors are short-lived. We have to work together to get through this part so that we can enjoy our new home and all our new town has to offer.
How about you? What other relationship ingredients would you add to the song All You Need is Love?