In just two days, on May 5th, my hubby David and I will be celebrating 18 years of marriage. What?! Yup, you heard that right. 18 years of wedded bliss. (cough cough!) Let me phrase that again—18 years of mostly wedded bliss. :)
I’m sure anyone who has been married for even a short period of time can attest that marriage is hard. Our first couple of years as husband and wife were without a doubt the hardest times we went through. We had to adjust to each other’s habits and quirks, figure out how to communicate effectively, and learn to trust, love and forgive. Five years into our marriage, we had our son, then two years later, our daughter. Along the way, we experienced the miscarriage of one of our twins and also the death of an immediate family member. In the years since, we have faced the challenges of balancing work life and family life and all the stresses that both bring. It’s honestly a testament to God’s grace that we are still married and (mostly) blissful together all these years later!
You can also bet that 18 years of marriage have given me a lot of inspiration for my books. While all my stories are fictional, I have included many real-life situations or lessons learned from my own marriage into them. Here are a few examples …
As an introvert who was not used to sharing when I first got married, I had to learn to make time for David and to be present with him when I did. In Tropical Kiss or Miss, Olivia and Matt also learned to make their relationship a priority.
I married my polar opposite and have needed to accept and embrace him, dirty socks on the floor and all! ;) In Taking a Chance on the Enemy, Sam and Lucas fought to get along, despite their completely different personalities.
These are just two examples of how my own marriage has influenced the stories I write. I’m thankful that I have a never-ending supply of ideas to draw from. But most of all, I’m so very grateful for a wonderfully supportive, patient and caring husband to share all these life lessons with and to grow old with. (By the way, in case you were wondering, the photo above is of me and David at a friend’s wedding about 2 years into our marriage when neither of us had gray hair yet. Lol.)
Just for fun: If you were to write a romance, what real-life situation or lesson would you include in your story? I can’t wait to read your answers!
Giveaway: I’d like to give away an ebook from my backlist (winner’s choice; multi-author boxed sets excluded). Two winners will be randomly chosen from the comments below. This giveaway will remain open until midnight on Sunday, May 5th.