When it comes to romance, it sure comes with twists and turns. When I read, that’s what I’m looking for. The unexpected. I call them curveballs. When it comes to life in general, we sure endure our share. I mean, look at 2020. That’s been a huge curveball, right?
I digress.
I thought I’d share some of my own romantic curveballs.
-A college boyfriend just up and left without saying goodbye. My mom was certain his feelings were stronger than mine and didn’t know how to say goodbye when he transferred to another college. Whatever the case, he returned during a break nine months later and wanted to pick up. I was not a Christian and my attention was already elsewhere. When he asked for my number, I hesitated when it came to giving him the correct numbers. He asked, “You don’t want me to call you, do you?” And with that, I did not hesitate. I said no.
-Once I became a Christian, there was a group of people suggesting I get together with a fellow single Christian. Looking back, it’s all we had in common, but as a newbie, I thought the power of suggestion equaled God’s will. I was certain this relationship was meant to be. Even when as a friend he was kind enough to tell me he was moving. To Russia. To be a missionary. As I pined away still believing this was God’s will, I later learned his missionary assignment was in jeopardy when he fell in love with his translator. To my knowledge, they remain married.
-While at a wedding, I caught the bouquet. My now-husband walked into my life three months after that reception.
-I knew my husband’s family long before I had met him. The first time we met was during a large gathering and he left me less than impressed. The “real” time was when I was running late from a church event to meet his family to show cruise pictures. I was so late they all left, everyone but Tom and his children. I stayed three hours.
-When we were engaged, we lived a good 90 minutes apart. He was going to start a new business in our hometown that would bring us closer. I am famous for freaking out when things are close to finally happening. Sure enough, two weeks before he moved, I sent him an email and broke up with him. It was too much, the distance. He never got the email. When I brought it up, he talked me through it and I agreed it was fear that sent the email, and God was why Tom never received it!
Those were unexpected situations that were both humorous and hard. As a romance author, I have to admit curveballs happen while writing. In Entrusted, there was a secondary character I just adored and I realized one day he needed to die. It moved the story forward, provided a way to wrap up the story and even gave the genesis to start a second book, something I never imagined doing. Last year I was down and out on the cough with bronchitis, a sinus infection, and adrenal fatigue. Writing new material? I couldn’t. I didn’t have it in me. But I could go back to an old manuscript and revise it. My first romance as a new Christian, written in 1994, was ready to publish in 2019. I never pictured publishing Match Made in Heaven. Yet I’ve received such great feedback regarding it.
Last month God blessed me with a few curveballs regarding my new series and the first book, Anchored. I was on a beach enjoying the choppy waters, daydreaming, when my mind drifted to the series. I’ve been calling it the Surrendering Opinions series because I knew it was about the Collins sextuplets and how the community helped raise them after a tragedy. Now adults, they are each trying to find their own identity and a love like the one their parents shared. The trouble is, they face challenges from loved ones who feel they have a say because they helped the family. It made sense.
Until God nudged me. Each book is a romance with a surrender issue. With a larger group of people with such passion for this family and their well-being, the characters are surrendering hearts.
- So, goodbye Surrendering Opinions. Hello, Surrendering Hearts.
- Then, if we’re talking hearts, then Spencer Hart and Jordyn Collins need to make a last name switch.
- Spencer is now Spencer Collins. The former Collins Six is now the Hart sextuplets. Jordyn is Jordyn Hart.
- Like a fast-pitching session, the balls kept coming at me. Anchored is the title of my first in the series, half-way completed. Now it’s Anchored Hearts.
- Each sibling gets their own book. I knew sibling #2, Ryan, would be working on his fixer-upper, dealing with the secrets of one of the volunteers who shows up to help. His title? Renovating Hearts.
- The last book features Paige, the youngest. I knew she would suffer a huge scandal early in the series that would be at the forefront. When it’s time to write her story, I knew she’d be apart from her siblings trying to live independently with a fresh start. The final curveball came over the weekend when God brought to mind a story I heard years ago that I’ve always wanted to write. A celebrity lamented years ago that if he was not doing what he was known for, he’d leave the limelight and take on a 9-5 job that would be basic compared to his current career, but he said he’d be so happy. I can’t say more than that, but now I have the hero for book six. Paige in her fresh start is going to run into the hero, someone hiding with his new beginning.
With six books, I have a lot of gaps to fill, but they are coming together. I have a team that prays for me. I pray. I take notes. I daydream.
I also catch curveballs. How about you? What curveballs have you dealt with?
Julie Arduini loves to encourage readers to surrender the good, the bad, and ---maybe one day---the chocolate. She’s the author of ENTRUSTED: Surrendering the Present, as well as ENTANGLED: Surrendering the Past. The last book in the series, ENGAGED: Surrendering the Future, is coming soon. She also shares her story in the infertility devotional, A WALK IN THE VALLEY. She also blogs every other Wednesday for Christians Read. She resides in Ohio with her husband, two children, and chocolate stash. Learn more by visiting her at http://juliearduini.com.
Life is full of curveballs. Some good, some not so good.
That’s for sure. Mary. So glad there are no surprises to God.
I enjoy curve balls….in fiction, not so much in real life, lol
Wow, what a inspiring post! In my life, there were a few curveballs, but I think there will be more in the future..
2020 – It has been a year like no other. I don’t even want to think about most of it. Curveballs – one after the other, and still happening. But yes, I like my reading to have some real surprises in it.
Life has had several curve balls lately but all you can do is go with the flow. I find that usually I can look back at things I thought went wrong and see how they ended up going so very right, I just couldn’t see it at the time.
You know, I think anything that takes us out of our stable, comfortable life qualifies as a curve ball. It could be as simple as someone occupying our designated parking place or as devastating as losing your health and your job while still owing tens of thousands of dollars in debt. Or perhaps, the death of a mother and sister withing 3 month’s time. I wonder if God’s expectation is that we be made to feel panic and terror, or if just being helpless is enough for us to see that He is faithful. Whether we like His methods or not, whether we like tears or not, the call of scripture is to accept as truth that our Heavenly Father is always wise, always perfect in His love and always caring for His children.
The trouble with curve balls is that, sometimes, you get hit by a pitch. Ouch!
Wow! My curve balls have been messy! Back in 2011 when I was laid off from my job, and thought I knew that God wanted me working again, so took a job I shouldn’t have. It didn’t last. Then, the same thing happened again, another job, didn’t last. Prayed differently, and Mom and I found that it was time that I stayed home with her as caregiver. I’ve been home 8 years now. Another curve ball was getting my insurance license, a new career I never dreamed of, but something I can do from home. Then, this year, another new career, proofreading some great books for some wonderful authors. This was the dream job I never knew to really dream! So, some curve balls are good, some not so much. I don’t like to dwell on the bad ones.
I agree 2020 has been one huge curve-ball after another! I really don’t like when they happen, but what can you do but change direction when they come? I know God knows best and always has something in mind when life throws up those curve-balls. :-)
I love curveballs – only in fiction! Real life – not so much – just need to remind myself constantly that God is with me and trust Him, which is not always easy…
I received a curveball the other night. Had 2.5 hours to make a decision, then acted. We’ll see if it pans out.
I would say that when curve balls are thrown to us, they are ways of learning for us . God is good and if we listen to Him when He speaks to us we’ve got this. Life is full of curveballs , if there weren’t any curve balls, we would never take risks that are for the better and we would never learn from different experiences. Life would be a bit boring without them. Have a Great week.
Paula,
I am late responding because I had an emergency and it’s a curve ball for sure. I’d rather see the unexpected as a reader.
How does that saying go? One thing we can expect is the unexpected. So glad God’s in control.
I am with you. It’s felt relentless at times. I’m ready to read some goofball moments that make great romance. Stay tuned, I’m writing them, too.
That’s so true, Megan! Thanks for that!
It took me a long time to see His faithfulness after one curveball after another, but once I embraced that truth, my entire life changed. Thank you, Lincoln, for your encouragement!
I love that you bring up food curve balls! There are some. Thank You, Lord!
That’s so good, Trixi! You have a great perspective. Thank you!
Natalya, I am in the middle of a curve ball now. What’s helping me? Knowing God took me through the fire every other time, and proved how faithful He is. Thank you for the encouragement!
Denise, I am praying for you!
Alicia, thank you so much. What a beautiful sentiment. Blessings to you!
Ah our comfort zones as re just that comfortable. Sometimes I need the curve ball to propel me out and sometimes not. It’s like the Irish blessing may you live in interesting times. Thanks for the great post Julie.