Jolene Navarro, here. Good Monday morning. I’m checking in from the Texas Hill Country.
Do you ever get a heavy heart and just can’t shake it? I hate it when that happens and my first response is to push past it. Try and ignore it.
One reason I love writing romance is I get to create a world where wrongs are made right. People get the happy ending they deserve. But if I fall into a funk it can be hard to writing.
Real life doesn’t always seem fair. As an introvert (people who know me don’t believe I’m not an extrovert) I could easily withdraw and wallow in my sadness. This will quickly take any joy out of the things I love… my family, writing, teaching art. I’ll lose my motivation to get up and move. Even my diet will suffer.
But my mother taught me some great lessons.
When I was little any change would set me off into a moody mess. Something as simple as the teacher rearranging the seating chart would have me crying. “Too sensitive” is what some people might call me.
Every time we had a change like moving (six times in my childhood) my mother would give me a limited time to be upset. Depending on the size of the trauma is the time it is allowed. Someone rearranging my space is small, the end of a relationship is bigger, the death of a loved one takes more time. There is no one right answer for everyone. You have to know what you need and give yourself that time.
Jesus took the time to feel the emotions. Anger, sadness and grief were all a part of his journey.
My mother told me to feel sad, angry or whatever sensation it was and to embrace it. Feel it. Take the time to inhale and breathe it in. Hold it. Then exhale and send it out and far away.
It’s harder than it sounds, but with practice, you get better. Instead of holding back or forcing it down, it’s okay to take the sadness, grief or anger and truly embrace it. But the most important part is letting it go through your heart, mind and body. Then let it pass and dissolve into the clouds or hills. Maybe you want to release into the depth of a calm ocean.
The more these steps are done, the easier it is to let go. Characters that have a hard time letting go is a reoccurring theme in my stories. So this might I’m still working on. LOL
I lost my mom suddenly in 2006, but her words and lessons stay with me. I didn’t start writing until after her death, and if you read any of my books, you’ll see my mom’s influence all over the pages.
Writing has become another strategy for me. I will also find a special Bible verse that speaks to me and meditate on it.
Do you have strategies and techniques to get through a funk?