In June, I released Book 1 of my new Matchmaking Moms of Oceanview Church series. Here’s my blog post about it to refresh your memory. Meet the Moms was a short prologue novella to introduce the matchmakers. Book 2 (Finding Love for the Loner) will release July 7.
My hope was that the short novella would pique readers’ interest in this group of covert matchmakers, determined to jumpstart their adult children’s love lives. And keep them interested enough to wait a month for the first matchmaking story to be released. So, I was thrilled when a devoted reader left this note on my Facebook author page:
“I met the moms. Now I’m ready to meet the children. Let the games begin!”
Our first match project involves Lily’s son, Winston. He’s a good guy. He’s got a steady job, owns a home, and is dog daddy to his yellow lab, Rebel. He’s got hobbies, interests, friends. He’s got a full life, right?
Not quite! According to the Matchmaking Moms, he’d be so much happier with the right woman in his life! And Winston wouldn’t necessarily disagree. It’s not that he doesn’t want a girlfriend. It’s just that he’s tried … more than once … and been rejected. Enough is enough. Is it really worth trying again if all that will result is another rejection?
So the Matchmaking Moms work their magic and suddenly there’s a woman in his life … Tina. A fellow dog lover, they bond over their canine companions. As they get to know each other better, the “opening up” starts. And the “digging beneath the surface.”
And that makes Winston nervous.
Because beyond his normal life of going to work every day and hanging with Rebel, he’s got a “secret life.” One that consumes him and has for years. One that he doesn’t openly talk about beyond his compadres. But this part of his life has filled his free hours during a time when he had an absence of love.
How can he grow close to Tina and share his life without revealing this whole other side of himself? If he did reveal it, would she accept it? Or would he have to eventually choose one over the other? And if faced with a choice, which would he choose? A healthy relationship? Or the secret past time that has been a big part of his life for years?
The corner I painted Winston into in this story reminds me of when we think we can keep a secret from God. We do something, or we think something, that isn’t pleasing to Him. We know it isn’t; we did it anyway. And we torture ourselves by trying to keep it hidden. If we don’t talk about it, it didn’t happen, right?
Wrong. God knows all our secrets, all our thoughts, but He wants us to be open to Him about them. Keeping our wrongdoings inside us causes a festering wound that only heals when we confess what we’ve done and request forgiveness.
In my search of the Bible to seek guidance on this behavior, I found these two verses helped me the most:
1 Peter 5:7: “You can throw the whole weight of your anxieties upon him, for you are his personal concern.”
1 John 1:9: “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
The next time I step into the hole (as I surely will, despite knowing it’s wrong) of doing or saying something I know is unpleasing to God, remind me to pull those two verses out and throw the whole weight of my anxieties on God, so he can cleanse me. And that’s what Winston needs to do, because, as you probably expect, Tina does find out about his secrets. She catches him right in the act.
To celebrate the release of Finding Love for the Loner, I’m going to give away either a Kindle ebook, or paperback version of the book (reader’s choice — no geographic restrictions). To be in the drawing, please make a comment on this blog by Friday, July 3. Tell me an experience you’ve had with forgiveness — either you forgave someone, or someone forgave you. How did you feel afterward?