Everyone has a fear, and I’m certainly no exception. I have more than one, but the fear I’m going to talk about here is one of the dentist. Yes, maybe that sounds silly. But I had a lot of dental work as a kid and even more as an adult. I can’t begin to tell you how nervous I get when I go to the dentist because I know there’s going to be something wrong. Unfortunately, with my teeth, that’s almost always what happens.
So, when our kids ended up with weak baby teeth, that fear was only magnified. It’s one thing for me to go through all of this. It’s completely different if our sweet babies do, too.
A few weeks ago, our daughter, who is six, developed a small abscess above one of her top, front teeth. After antibiotics and a waiting game, the dentist finally decided that the two top teeth needed to be extracted. Thankfully, these were just baby teeth and already loose, so it could have been worse.
I had to psych myself up for days to make sure I took her to the dentist for her appointment with a good attitude and no visible anxiety or fear of my own. Let me tell you, it wasn’t easy. They took an x-ray of the two front teeth to see what they were dealing with. And there was my baby girl, giving me a big grin and a thumbs up. That’s when I realized that my fears were my own. My daughter had no such fears, and it gave me hope that she never would. Maybe she would be one of those kids who grew up unafraid of the dentist. Or who, like a few of my cousins, even looked forward to the visit every six months.
That sweet girl spoke to the dentist with a smile, handled the nitrous like a champ, and then didn’t complain once as they numbed her gums and extracted both of those teeth.
The whole time, I sat on the bed with her, my hands on her legs, and smiled reassuringly. I was so proud of her.
Two hours later, she was eating lunch and flashing that new toothless grin, telling me that she was so glad the dentist took her teeth out because her mouth felt so much better now.
How many times do we limit ourselves, or even others we love, by letting our fears control us? My daughter’s experience could’ve been completely different if I’d projected my fear of dentists onto her. Instead, it was a great experience, her pain was removed, and she’ll go to the dentist next time with a smile on her face.
In my book, Calming the Storm, Rachel deals with a lot of fear. She’s lost nearly everyone that’s ever meant something to her. Her young niece, Kendra, is the only family Rachel has left, and now even that sweet little girl might be torn from her arms. When Brandon suggests a marriage of convenience to help her keep Kendra, Rachel’s scared. What if it doesn’t work? What if she loses her niece anyway? What if she falls for Brandon and he leaves her just like everyone else has?
Only by learning how to set aside her fears can Rachel finally experience all the joy and love that God has in store for her.
For your chance to win a $5.00 Amazon gift card, comment below and tell me about a time you conquered your fear, no matter how small that fear may be. One person will be chosen randomly on Sunday, July 30th, and the winner contacted by e-mail. I look forward to reading your responses!