I’m sure we’ve all seen the memes about how certain movies or stories gave us unrealistic expectations for love. I laugh at them and can sometimes agree. Some things are unrealistic.
But then this year my parents celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary and I heard from so many others who are about to hit 60 years and it made me sit back and think. I don’t blame romance books for giving me unrealistic expectations about love and marriage. My parents gave me expectations for what I deserve to find in my happily ever after.
The romance that I find in CCR mimic that same beauty and God-driven love that I’ve come to know and appreciate.
Books are an escape from a lot of the idiocy in the world, and they are a way to look at different situations from within the safety of our own thoughts. I love romance and I love books that show romance in a healthy way, and yes, I even love romance that is so ridiculously perfect that I shake my head and grin. Life is often stranger than fiction, and I myself claim to have what others would consider a fairy-tale romance.
It’s fun to consider the expectations of life being like the book–kind of like movie adaptations of books–and simply enjoy both for what they are.
I feel like expectations about romance are a lot like the “rules” that romance writers are supposed to follow.
Sometimes we break those rules and the story is better for it. And sometimes our characters make decisions for themselves and leave us out of it altogether. Sounds like me when God tells me to do something I don’t want to do.
How have books helped you move past a certain expectation in life? One of mine is always forgiveness. I struggle so much with forgiveness, and every time I read a CCR book that has a forgiveness storyline, I am reminded of my struggles and I feel a sense of community in knowing that I am not the only one. Yes, the story was fiction, but the human condition of anger and forgiveness affects us all.