What’s an ISFJ?
It’s what I am. :) You might be, too.
As a writer, the personalities of my characters play a part in how they react to certain situations. In doing my research, I ran across this site. It is a personality test. This particular type of test allows that there are sixteen different personalities.
I am ISFJ. What does that mean?
Here is the breakdown from my test:
Introverted (I) 78% Extroverted (E) 22%
Sensing (S) 81% Intuitive (N) 19%
Feeling (F) 74% Thinking (T) 26%
Judging (J) 53% Perceiving (P) 47%
According to the site, an ISFJ: follows the rules, polite, fears drawing attention to self, dislikes competition, somewhat easily frightened, easily offended, timid, dutiful, private, lower energy, finisher, organized, socially uncomfortable, modest, not confrontational, easily hurt, observer, prone to crying, not spontaneous, does not appreciate strangeness – intolerant to differences, apprehensive, clean, planner, prone to confusion, afraid of many things, responsible, guarded, avoidant, anxious, cautious, suspicious, more interested in relationships and family than intellectual pursuits, not adventurous, fears doing the wrong thing, dislikes change
Now there are a few of these things I’m not. However, for the most part this describes me pretty accurately.
So how do you love an ISFJ?
- Listen when they speak.
- Allow them plenty of down time.
- Don’t push when they withdraw from a situation. (I am personally a passive-aggressive, so if you keep pushing, I will come to a point when I can’t take anymore, and I will explode. It’s not pretty.)
- Warn them when a change is going to happen as much as possible–even a few minutes is better than nothing.
- Don’t tease too much.
- Don’t assume they don’t understand or don’t care just because they don’t speak. They’re processing.
Do you know an ISFJ? Are you one? Or do you fall somewhere else on the spectrum?
The test is free here: http://similarminds.com/jung.html It only takes a few minutes. Take it, then come back and share where you fall, and how best we can love you. :)