We all love babies, don’t we? And the anticipation of their arrival…
Two weeks ago, we had my daughter-in-law’s baby shower. It was wonderful and I was able to hand over the myriads of pink and frilly clothes I’d been buying for months…from the day after we found out that we’d be blessed with our first granddaughter (our third grandchild).
Last week, I was pondering the recent baby shower, Amy’s pregnancy, and my current work in progress, and I couldn’t help but recognize the similarities between carrying a baby, and working on a book baby.
First there’s the conception. Well, we all know how that happens in human terms, but for writers, it’s that moment when a story idea enters their mind and begins to grow. Kinda like a little book embryo. And as we plot and write, a sense of excitement wells within us as we eagerly watch our word count increase—much like a soon-to-be mommy rejoices over each milestone of her pregnancy.
Although in excellent health—both mommy and baby—Amy has had quite a pregnancy. She’s been suffering with hyperemesis gravidarum, or HG for short. For anyone who doesn’t know what HG is, it’s a pregnancy complication that is characterized by severe nausea, vomiting, weight loss, and possibly dehydration. I myself hadn’t heard of it until one of my fellow South African authors, Lucy Nel, posted about her struggles with HG in both her pregnancies. Amy had landed in the hospital twice in the first few weeks of her pregnancy, and even at 32 weeks, she’s still suffering from bouts of nausea. It’s been a little better over the past few weeks, but often she just feels ill when dinner is served (and no, my cooking isn’t that bad LOL). In fact, she lost 10kg during her pregnancy and has only picked up three of those lost kilograms. While it sounds wonderful losing weight during pregnancy, I’m quite sure Amy would rather not have had continuous morning sickness.
Amy’s struggle with HG and my current WIP reminded me that writer’s also suffer during the days, weeks, and months before a book is born. After all, writer’s block is an illness, isn’t it? And let’s not mention the curve balls life throws at authors, keeping them from making progress on their book babies. Just this weekend, for instance, my mother-in-law suffered a mild heart attack and is in cardiac ICU, on Friday my son arrives from Cape Town, and next week I’ll be away visiting my brother at the coast so lots of time out of writing on a book I’m already behind in. All these kinds of things—pleasant and unpleasant—eat away at the author’s productivity.
And then, as the due date draws near, there’s the baby shower—a time of celebration when everyone starts to get really excited about the birth. It’s almost time for the baby to be born. It’s also the day the new mommy gets to see what her baby will wear in the months to come. Pretty much like a cover reveal on a new book. Speaking of, here’s my new book baby’s cover (you’re the first to see it!)
Just as baby showers are thrown for expectant mothers, some authors do book launches with all the bells and whistles. My friend, Shirley Corder, did one this past Saturday for her new non-fiction release, God in Africa. Which reminds me, ten authors with ties to Africa (fiction and non-fiction) are throwing their own Facebook party at the end of the month to celebrate books set in Africa. We’d love you to join us on our Africa Book Safari. If you’re unable to join on that hyperlink, please let me know and I’ll invite you.
Of course, all celebrations, be it weddings, birthday parties, baby showers, or book launches, start with an invitation and then a whole lot of preparation.
Often mothers struggle with a fear of loving a new baby. I know I did with my second pregnancy. I kept thinking, “How am I going to love another child as much as I love the one I have?” Thankfully, God has given us an incredible capacity to love, and I fell in love all over again the moment my second child was born.
I’m certain many writers struggle with this “love” problem too. I do. Sad to let characters go to start a new book. Can I love this hero or heroine as much as I did the previous one? Once again, this capacity to love comes into play, and we quickly learn to adore our new heroes and heroines as much as we did the previous ones.
Finally, birthing a baby comes with a lot of pain, sweat, and tears. Labor definitely is the correct word for bringing a child into the world. The same can be said for birthing a book. There’s a lot of pain, sweat, and very often tears that go into the words a writer pens. And yes, a LOT of hard work—labor—to get those words down and the story written. But oh, what a feeling when you hold that newborn [book]baby in your hands! I’ll be honest, not quite like holding a child or grandchild, but still a pretty good feeling. And like a new mother, you’re left wondering what mark your “baby” will leave on this world.
PS. My next book baby, Accept Me (Book 7 in the Chapel Cove Romances), will release in December…sometime.
Mary Preston says
I can easily see how the comparisons can be made.
Ausjenny says
The HG Amy has is what Catherine the Duchess of Cambridge had this for all three of her children. I think mum had it with me also but back then they didn’t have a term for it. She couldn’t eat anything for the first 3 months, or the last 3 months to the point my brother thought pregnant women only ate vegemite on crackers.
I like your analogy of birthing a book.
Paula Marie says
Great analogy, Marion! I know how excited you are for your first grandgirl👶!! As always, I anticipate your next book!
Wemble says
Hi Marion, what a great analogy- and how exciting to share in your daughter in law’s pregnancy. Prayers and blessings as baby birth date approaches:)
I have two boys and they have a male cousin- they love to remind me that boys outnumber girls in the family!! so looking at all the cute girl things- clothes, girly baby shower- how fun:)
Blessings:)
Lelia (Lucy) Reynolds says
Congratulations! Love the comparison. Blessings
Trudy says
Love this! Great way to show us what it’s like! Congratulations on the grandgirl!! Little girls are so much fun to shop for!! Can’t wait to read Accept Me!!
Marion Ueckermann says
Quite fascinating, isn’t it, Mary? And I’m certain there are more 😊
Marion Ueckermann says
Love the vegemite on crackers thought. I, on the other hand, have no clue what morning sickness and cravings are about. Never had either in both my pregnancies. Glad you enjoyed the read, Jenny 😊
Marion Ueckermann says
Thanks, Paula. ❤
Marion Ueckermann says
Boys definitely outnumber girls in our family too. My husband comes from 3 boys, I had two boys, and my son has two boys. Hubby’s eldest brother has one son and one grandson. Only hubby’s middle brother has two girls. Glad you enjoyed the post 😊
Marion Ueckermann says
Thanks, Lucy. Glad you enjoyed the read 😊
Marion Ueckermann says
Thanks so much, Trudy. Glad you enjoyed the read. I cant wait to get down to some serious writing one of these days! 😊
Ruth Dell says
Love your new book cover, Marion.
Re cravings during pregnancy, I had none during my first two pregnancies, but during the third one, I craved ice. Every time I passed the fridge, I grabbed ice cubes and ate them. I ate so many that I seriously worried that my baby would be born with frost bitten toes and fingers! (She wasn’t)
Marylin Furumasu says
Marion,
I can’t wait to read this new book! I’m so excited!
Oh and thanks for sharing all the cute photos of your family and the upcoming happenings. I also want to say I hope all is well with your mother-in-law.
Wow, you’ve really had a lot of things happening at once.
Please remember to breathe! Take care!
Shirley Corder says
Thanks for the cute analogy, Marion. So true. Having just birthed a book, I’m not sure the three babies weren’t easier! Like you, I had no sickness issues with any of my three, but with my first baby I ate so many raw tomatoes dipped in salt I thought my baby would definitely be a redhead – yet she’s one of the few in the family that isn’t!
Valerie Comer says
Congrats on your new release, Shirl!
Valerie Comer says
Grandgirls are so much fun!!! says the grandma of four of them. Grandsons, on the other hand, I have no experience with.
Hope all continues to go well for Amy… and for your book-baby, too!
Marion Ueckermann says
Lol, that’s so cute, Ruth. 😊
Marion Ueckermann says
Thanks do much, Marylin ❤
Marion Ueckermann says
Lol, Shirl. I know you’ve been through quite a time with your launch. May your book bless readers.
Marion Ueckermann says
Thanks so much, Valerie. When I think of how my nieces were with my mom, I’m excited at the prospect of a granddaughter 😊
Merrillee Whren says
Marion, thanks for sharing that delightful post on human babies and book babies.
Paula Shreckhise says
Congratulations on your granddaughter and your book! Sons run in our family, too. Three of them plus a daughter. Our son has two boys, our daughter has two of each. Our other son has one of each.
That was a cute shower set up! Haven’t been to one in a long while.
Marion says
Glad you enjoyed it, Merrillee 😊
Marion says
Thank you , Paula. I did Amy’s last baby shower, so her sister did this one. She did a great job 😊
Laurie Larsen says
Congratulations to your family for the new pending birth! Be careful though … ha ha. My brother and his wife already welcomed two grandsons when the third was on the way. The ultrasound tech revealed it was going to be a girl. My sister-in-law (“Mimi”) was thrilled and went out and bought a ton of pink clothes, only for the tech to come back two weeks later and reveal her mistake … it is a boy after all!! :)
Priscila says
I enjoyed your analogy. I’m currently home with a good 1-month old baby boy and can vividly remember the waiting period before he was born. This is my second baby and it was a much more difficult pregnancy (no specific disease just overall difficult). I guess, just like that, some books are harder to write than others.
Marion Ueckermann says
LOL, yes, that thought has crossed our minds, although the OBGYN has confirmed several times that she is a girl :) Hope she’s right because we have a LOT of pink and tulle :)
Marion Ueckermann says
Absolutely, Priscila. And congrats on your new baby. Enjoy him.