Dating can be stressful. I’m so glad I’m no longer in the dating game. If first dates are awkward, blind dates are on par with prying broken sticks beneath my fingernails.
First dates could end in a number of ways. She liked him, but he wasn’t interested. He liked her, but she put him in the friend zone. They both liked each other, but they’re both too chicken to call later.
I mean, I’ve had my share of bad dates. I once went on a date with a guy who talked about how much he wanted to have a little girl one day. Not just kids–a girl. When I jokingly asked what he would do if he ended up with a boy, he gave me a serious look and said, “I won’t.”
And then there was a long drive home humoring his imaginings of his future with a little girl. Yikes!
There was also the date with my now-husband when I met his family.
It did NOT go well.
But, there’s a happy ending. They love me now!
The first Christmas I spent with my husband’s family, my twenty-five-year-old brother-in-law pouted most of the evening because 80% of the presents under the tree were for me. I like to think he likes me now though.
Oh, good times. Now, my dates usually involve a child’s menu and mac n cheese.
Dates are all about getting to know the other person. Both sides are wondering if this is going to work out, but everyone is too afraid to dive deep and ask the real questions! Dates can seem like informal job interviews. You’re really sizing each other up while trying to be on top of your game.
No pressure, right?
What would dates be like if we could just ask the questions that might expose those traits we’re going to wish we knew about later?
Are you a nail biter?
Have you ever run out of gas in your car?
Do you snore?
Do you drink the last of the orange juice and put the empty jug back in the refrigerator?
Those examples are all in good fun, but there are some questions that should be answered sooner rather than later.
I polled the lovely ladies in my reader group this week and asked what questions they’d like to know the answers to on a first date. They came up with some good ones.
What’s your favorite Bible verse?
Are you a Christian?
Do you like to travel?
Are you a sports fan?
Alabama or Auburn? (Just a little college football humor from the Southeast US.)
Have you ever been arrested?
Do you drink or smoke?
What do you like to do for fun?
Are you close with your family?
In my book, Charmed by the Cowboy, Maddie has just gotten a job as the new horse trainer at Blackwater Ranch, but she’s a little bummed that there weren’t any big interview questions. Lucas gives her a few to shake things up a bit.
If you were part of a pencil, would you be the lead or the eraser?
If you were a fruit, what kind would you be?
These questions are silly, but the answers can tell you a lot about a person. If they chose the lead, are they a perfectionist? If they chose a watermelon, are they hard on the outside and sweet on the inside?
I actually had a class in high school where we had mock job interviews, and these questions were sometimes thrown in to make us really consider our answers.
It’s impossible to know someone well after only a first date, but we can usually tell if things are going to pick up or come to a halt.
While real dates can be awkward and awful, dates we read about in books are usually funny or push those characters toward a happily ever after.
I’ve picked out a few first dates in contemporary Christian romances that stood out to me.
Downtown Billionaire by Hannah Jo Abbott
Andrew is nervous about the date and begins to ask pointed questions so they won’t fall into an uncomfortable silence. She’s definitely being grilled, and he admits to searching interview questions before the date.
Blind Date with a Billionaire Professor by Evangeline Kelly
This was the first book I read by Evangeline Kelly, and I still remember laughing at the blind date scene. Colin is an academic through and through. He talked about mushrooms the whole date! Thankfully, he convinced Abby to give him another shot.
Lavender and Lace by Tara Grace Ericson
Oh boy, Lavender’s story was my favorite read of 2020. Lavender and Emmett are thrown together against his will, and he immediately dislikes her based on simple things he knows about her. He’s hung up on a girl he’s been chatting with online anyway. When he finally gets to meet his online crush for a date, he’s shocked to find out it was Lavender the whole time. How can he be in love with one side of her but not the other?
I’m writing this book right now, and it begins with an interesting blind date. The characters realize they know each other, and while Tyler thinks they should just forget this mix-up ever happened, Sissy is all in for a date with her brother’s friend. It’s an opposites attract story that I hope you’ll enjoy. Sissy has been my favorite character to write throughout the Unfailing Love series, and I always knew she needed an epic beginning with Tyler. Since Sissy and Tyler were already married when the series began, I knew I’d eventually write the prequel to tell the story that started it all.
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I’d love to hear some of your dating stories or which books included a date you really enjoyed reading about. Share them in the comments.