Deemed the “month of love” by many, February often makes people think of romance, grand gestures, and happy endings. As readers and writers of romance, I think it’s safe to say most of us enjoy escaping into the picture-perfect pages of love found in CCR books. Sigh-inducing endings. Foot-popping kisses perfectly staged as snow begins to fall. Swoon-worthy dialogue that leaves us weak in the knees.
But what does romance look like off the page?
I recently asked some of my fellow romance authors what romance means to them, in real life. What have been some of their favorite dates with their sweetie? How do they feel most loved in their relationship? Before I share a few responses from Inspy Romance authors, I’ll share an example from my own life.
I’ve been married to my husband, Eric, for almost 20 years. No matter how busy he is or how late it gets, he makes sure to prep the coffee maker for me so it’s ready when I wake up in the morning. He fills the reservoir with water, sets out two coffee pods, and places a fresh mug under the dispenser. Every morning when I stumble into the kitchen (I’m not a morning person), I smile at the daily reminder that he’s thought of me. That’s romantic!
Let’s see what some other of your favorite authors had to say about their real-life romances.
“I’ve always found romance in the little things: an offer to swing by the store on the way home, being the first to jump and help or clean when the dog (or a kid) is throwing up, holding my hand in a car full of bickering kids on the way to church. All the little things that show me he chooses love in the middle of the mess.” – Elizabeth Maddrey
“Since my release from the hospital after COVID when I couldn’t do much of anything for myself, my husband has helped with everything from doing dishes and laundry to washing my hair when I didn’t have the strength to do so. He also started praying with our girls every night before bed while I was in the hospital—a habit we’d let slide in recent years as life got busier—and now it’s a family priority again. I guess for me, acts of service and him initiating spiritual things both make me feel a little swoony!” – Jaycee Weaver
“My husband has taken me on some wonderful dates, but I’d have to say our trip to Chattanooga, Tennessee for our first wedding anniversary might top the list. We spent the weekend doing ALL THE TOURISTY THINGS. The Tennessee Aquarium, IMAX movies, a kids museum (yes, we went without kids), and Ruby Falls. We had the best time.” – Mandi Blake
“Romance, to me, is making sure the other person knows you SEE him or her. Like when my husband hears I am having a bad day so brings home a cherry limeade. Or makes sure to get my favorite chocolate instead of just whatever is in the Valentine’s section. It’s the details that no one else would know, but he reminds me he does.” – Amy Anguish
What are some examples of what love looks like in your life? It could be romantic, sure, but we show love to family, friends, and neighbors in big and small ways all the time. It all counts! While we all agree the memorable romances we find in books are thrilling and exciting, isn’t it wonderful to see the extraordinary in our everyday lives, too?
TIME FOR A GIVEAWAY!
Everyone who comments below will be entered to win an e-book copy of one of the books in my Laurel Cove Romance Series, winner’s choice! (If you choose Say It’s For Good, it will be delivered after its release on 2/22.) Giveaway is open to US as well as international readers and closes February 10. The winner will be contacted by email soon after.