“Now nothing seems as strange as when the leaves begin to change. . .”
Yeah, sorry for quoting Kid Rock, but that lyric seriously plays in my head all the time at this time of year. Somehow summer always manages to sneak up on me and take me by surprise. Then I blink and it’s gone and there are pumpkin fragrances all over Bath and Body Works. What in the world.
I won’t bore you with yet another “time moves way too fast” post because it seems like I say that every few months. (But it does. It really does move too fast!)
And this year, somehow, I’m more nostalgic than ever. I tried to figure out why that is and it hit me. I AM TURNING FORTY NEXT YEAR.
That must be the reason I’m suddenly pouring over scrapbooks of my college days and seriously not understanding where the time went.
We moved my stepson into the dorm last weekend and that set me off even more. I think I am finally coming to terms with the fact that it wasn’t RECENTLY that I myself was moving into a dorm. It was two DECADES ago and there has been a lot of life lived since then. But it seems like just yesterday.
I look at photos of those years and I really feel like I’m still that same girl.
Except I’m not. Not really.
I have lost and I have loved and I have lived. There have been failures and successes. I have laughed a lot and cried a lot.
And as I begin to think about what I’ve learned over those years, I thought I’d share a few:
- Life is precious. Every day is new. I used to have a bad habit of “wishing” my life away by counting down to the next big event. I need to stop doing that because each day is a day to be celebrated!
- People are flawed. All of us. I have (finally) learned to be more compassionate and less judgmental. We all at one time or another go through difficult things. We also all at one time or another make mistakes. We all need less judgment and more compassion.
- Some things are not worth it. In life (or at least in mine) there are lots of opportunities to do lots of things. There comes a time when saying “no” is okay. For me, it’s when I see that my work/writing commitments begin to severely impact my relationships. There was a time just a few years ago when I would’ve said “yes” to every speaking invitation, book signing, or guest blog post. But now I look at my calendar and if I’ve already done too much that month, I say no without guilt. My family has to come first.
- The world has a lot of good people in it. We (thanks to the media) see so much bad. Every day brings us bad news and we shake our heads and say how horrible people are. But you know what? There are also some really fantastic people doing some amazing things. Look around and find them. Even better, be one of them!
- There are certain friendships that last through all the seasons of life. These are precious. I met my 3 best friends during my freshman year of college. Hardly a day goes by when the 4 of us don’t communicate. When you find people who “get you” hang on to them! You will treasure them always.
How about you? What’s been your biggest life lesson so far?