The sister relationship is one of the most complicated. From best friends to mortal enemies, every set of sisters has a different dynamic and relationship, and that’s true not only from family to family but sister to sister within the same family.
With three daughters and a sister of my own, it’s definitely a relationship I have a lot of experience with. I’ve had a lot of conversations with mom friends who grew up with sisters or raised multiple daughters, and the best word to describe each sister relationship is, perhaps, complicated.
A sister is both your mirror and your opposite. – Elizabeth Fishel
Family dynamics fascinate me, especially birth order studies. I love exploring the commonalities and differences. But there’s just something extra intriguing about sisters, which is why I wrote a trio of them in my Sinclair Sisters trilogy.
A sister is a little bit of childhood that can never be lost. – Marion C. Garretty
While each book focuses primarily on the heroine finding romance, I did something a little different in this series. In each book, each chapter contains a peek into their pasts as well as their unfolding present day story. Often there’s an interaction between the hero and heroine that plays into their present day romance, but equally as often there’s another relationship played a role in pushing her forward toward resolving a conflict with the hero: her sister.
It’s funny, because I never set out to make these ROMANCES into a sister trilogy. From the beginning of This and Every Christmas, Clari talked about her sisters. They were united in their parents’ obsessive affection for all things Christmas, and slowly I began to understand how vital the relationship between the three girls was to them. Clari was a natural teacher and mother figure to Lucy (and her other students) in large part because an oldest sister grows up playing those roles by default.
As I wrote this book during the pandemic quarantine of 2020, my three daughters were stuck with each other 24/7 with no way to distance except for their bedroom doors. I began to realize how important the sister relationship was to each of them (my girls AND the fictional Sinclair girls). They fought like crazy but became incredibly close. They developed inside jokes. Shared experiences. They will forevermore have stories that only the three of them know and understand. Even now that we’ve moved on to a more normal life as teenagers, they still have secret conversations, sister sleepovers, push each other’s buttons, and fiercely defend when an outsider treats one of them poorly.
We didn’t want to admit it then, but we were friends. – Shannon Celebi
In writing Charlie—aka CJ—Sinclair’s book Now and Forever Christmas in 2021, the sister relationship played an even larger role in helping CJ’s romance with Tobin unfold. In the past scenes, youngest sister Cindy proves the perfect listener when CJ needs one, providing insight she didn’t expect from someone three years younger. In the present, CJ found refuge and healing in her older sister’s home. She’s the bridge between her oldest and youngest sister, equally close to both but in very different ways.
You’re not my best friend. You’re my sister, and that’s more. – Jenny Han
Cindy’s story has been the most difficult to write because I watch my youngest trying to find her own place with two older sisters who are polar opposites and understanding Cindy probably felt the same way. While the Sinclair sisters bonded over their mutual teenage embarrassment, they grew apart over the years as distance and life experience separated them. Cindy chose to stay in Florida after college. She loves her independent life, but of course, she still misses her family. Still longs for their former closeness. A part of her would love to live nearby and watch her nieces and nephews grow up. But she also needs her space and to live life on her own terms. It’s been fun to explore the way she sees that sister dynamic through a third lens I haven’t yet explored.
So distant yet so close. So different yet so similar. That’s why I love my sister. – Maxime Lagacé
Cindy’s story, Not Another Christmas, comes out next month in the 2022 Christmas Lights Collection, Destination Christmas. I’m excited to share it with you October 18th! If you haven’t already read them in the 2020 and 2021 Christmas Lights Collections, the first two Sinclair Sisters books are available now on Amazon.
The greatest gift our parents ever gave us was each other. – Unknown
I know Tara Grace Ericson and Marion Ueckermann have contemporary romance series following sisters, but I would LOVE it if you’d share any other CONTEMPORARY Christian/Inspirational romance series or books where the sister relationship plays a significant role. Or if you’ve read Clari and CJ’s stories, tell me if you thought the sister dynamic rang true for you! OR, share with us some of your own sister stories! I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments.
Until next time,
Elizabeth Litton says
Beth K. Vogt has a series about three sisters–the Thatcher Sisters series. It’s really good!
Jaycee Weaver says
Wonderful! I’ll have to check that out. Thanks for sharing! 😊
Lori Smanski says
I love your post. Sister dynamics are really there. My sister and I are nine years apart. I am the oldest, three brothers and then my lovely sister. Unfortunately my sister was very jealous of me. I got my ears pierced first, got to wear a little make up first, you get the idea. My sister has always been extremely competitive. Me, well only on certain things. So to say we were not close growing up is a huge understatement. When both of our kiddos were in school full time, we decided to find out if we were still opposed to each others company. We had both grown up so much since leaving home. We started to exercise together and then go to lunch, twice a week. We found we had more in common than either of us knew. As we were on the way to becoming best friends, my two kiddos and her two kiddos started to become close friends also. The four cousins would take turns who’s house they would spend the weekend at. My sister and I would do anything for each other now. God has blessed us with a tight and wonderful relationship now. And the four cousins are still extremely close. They are now ages: 38, 37, 36 and 35. God is good.
Jaycee Weaver says
I love your sister story so much! Thank you for sharing. Motherhood helped my sister and I figure ourselves out too. I adore her now like I did when she was a newborn!
The Tales of Grace Chapel Inn revolves around an inn and three sisters that now own it, and the inn was their childhood home. Hallee Bridgeman has Sapphire Ice and the next two books, all dealing with three sisters. That’s all I can think of right now!
Jaycee Weaver says
Ooh, I forgot about Hallee’s series! Thanks for the reminder. 😊
Alicia Haney says
Good morning, your books sound like great reads! I love books about sisters. I have 2 sisters and I am the oldest of the 3 of us. I am 1 yr and 1 week older then my next sister and I am 7 yrs older then my youngest sister. When we were growing up , my middle sister was a little jealous of my youngest sister, cause she was used to being the youngest and the baby. When my youngest sister was born I wanted nothing but the Best for her, so I was pretty close to her. We have always been real close though. We also have 3 older brothers and my parents taught us to watch out for each other. Both our parents have already passed away and we have all remained even closer. I enjoyed reading your post, Thank you so much. Have a great day and a great rest of the week.
Jaycee Weaver says
Thank you for your comment, Alicia! I love hearing personal stories. ☺️ I’m sorry for your loss, but I’m glad you have the comfort of a close relationship with your siblings.
Your books sound a great Christmas read, will definitely look out for them.
Elizabeth Maddrey’s Hope Ranch series is about brothers and sisters, rather than just sisters, but I think the sister and sister in law relationships are well done.
I have one sister, who is 18 months younger -;we are very different people and fought constantly growing up (I don’t think sharing a room helped!)
As adults we are still very different, but having our own space and lives means we get on much better, and though she can still make me more angry than nearly anyone else I can have nearly say there’s no one I admire more. We are Godmothers to each other’s children and talk or message daily.
Jaycee Weaver says
Lol I can relate! That sister relationship certainly can be complicated.
Debra Pruss says
Hi Jaycee. I am an only child so I do not have any sister stories to share. I am reading romantic suspense books that have sisters in them. Darlene L. Turner has a series Crisis Rescue team. Thank you for sharing. God bless you.
can’t think of any