We’re romance readers and writers here at InspyRomance. We love love! And – don’t shoot me – we might tend to “romanticize” it just a wee bit. But we do love to escape the real world for a time and lose ourselves in a good story.
Unfortunately for me, I’m one of those people who has difficulty truly suspending disbelief when I dig into a book. I love romance that feels real, that I can imagine experiencing myself. Since I’ve never met (or even seen) a tall, dark, handsome, amazingly rich guy who’s perfect in every way, it’s hard for me to lose myself in some stories. I envy those who can!
That got me thinking about “real” romance. What does it look like in everyday life? And how can we celebrate it? We love a good, pretend romance, but how about the guys who make romance a real thing in the day-to-day grind? Listen to what these women have to say about how their husbands have made them feel special:
Angie: I don’t like obligatory flowers for Valentine’s Day and birthdays. So a few weeks ago, my hubby talked to me on the phone while I was on the road. He mentioned it was weird I didn’t like flowers.
“I love flowers, just not the boring required kind. I like the just because kind.”
A few weeks later, I came home from a speaking trip. On the counter was a hydrangea with a note, “Just because…”
Then, a few days later, he plucked a yellow primrose off our bush. “I love you just because…”
I feel loved just because…
Mary: When I was working full-time, I’d get up first and get in the shower. While I was showering, Paul would get up and turn the heat up (in the winter, of course!). A glass of juice would be waiting for me on the bathroom counter when I got out of the shower. And in the winter, he’d start my car so it would be warm when I got in.
Linda: Sometimes my hubby sends me a “Love ya!” text after he gets to work. It makes me feel special that even though he’s about to start a hectic day at work, he takes a minute to think about me, and then let me know he’s thinking of me.
Another Linda (my sister-in-law) says this about my older brother (who knew??): Every day he makes sure we have flowers in the house – cut flowers from our own garden in the summer, or in the winter he buys a couple of bouquets and puts them together in a nice vase. When we got married, he told my daughter he would always have flowers…and in over 7 years, he has! It sure shows us he loves us and makes us feel loved.
Stephanie: My husband makes the morning coffee and always has a cup poured and waiting for me at the table when I come down from my shower. Pretty simple stuff but I love that he thinks of me!
Shannon: When I first started writing, we thought it was easy to get published. Once we realized it wasn’t, he never threw in the towel – even when it hit his wallet and it didn’t seem like we’d get any of the investment back. Over the years, my writing has taken me to many locations, but I’m one of those people who doesn’t like to drive unless I know the area well. Lots of traffic freaks me out. Luckily, I have a great chauffer. In my pursuit of writing, he’s taken me to numerous conferences, writers’ group meetings, speaking engagements, book signings, and on research trips. I truly couldn’t have honed my skills, gotten published, helped other writers in their pursuit of publication or written the Texas books without him.
Sherrie: It happened a long time ago, but it’s been something that’s always remained a special moment to me. I’m not a big fru-fru type of girl, so I’m not super easy to buy for. Flowers don’t really impress me, and I certainly don’t need a big box of chocolates to make me fat! In the early days of our marriage, we didn’t have much money, so we couldn’t spend what we had on frivolous things anyway. Whenever birthdays, Valentine’s Day, or anniversaries rolled around, we’d often spend a quiet evening at home and not do something lavish. This one year, he was working second shift and didn’t get home until 2:00am most nights. So on Valentine’s Day, we couldn’t go on a date, but that year, I really wanted a date! I’d been at home with the kids all day/week, and really wanted to do something special. I went on to bed and when my hubby came home, he woke me up and asked me to come downstairs with him. I went down to find coffee and chocolate éclairs, which he knew was my favorite dessert. We sat together in the quiet of the wee morning hours eating our dessert together and drinking coffee without the interruption of the children. That will always remain my favorite Valentine’s Day, and a time that I felt super special to my husband.
Rose: My husband is not a good caregiver when I’m sick; however, after I had surgery, he stood in the bathroom while I showered for the first week to make sure if I slipped, he was there to help me.
Gail: We were visiting my sister-in-law who drinks milk, juice and water…I was totally craving a Diet Pepsi. In the morning, I woke up to the sound of a soda can opening close to my ear! My hubby had gone out early in the morning and bought me my much needed caffeine! He knew I needed my fix.
Brenda: I grew up on a dairy farm so we always had a wealth of cats around, and I loved them all. Then I married into a family of cat haters, including my husband, so I believed I’d have to get my cat fix by visiting my parents. For my birthday, that first year we were married, my husband took me on a mystery drive – a drive that ended up at the Humane Society where he said, “Happy Birthday!” Now that is love! A kitten chose us that day, a hand-fitting tortoise shell that we both loved for 17 years, and was a continuous reminder of my husband’s love for me.
Wendy: When I got my first cell phone, I didn’t know anything about how to get it set up or how to use it. Mike is my technogeek, so he got it all set up for me. He set it up so that every time I turned it on, which was each morning after I’d charged it, the first thing I saw on the screen was “I love you, Wendy! Mike” I loved seeing that every single day for the life of that phone (which was a very long time!). He never told me about it or showed it to me, he just let me find it the first time I turned it on. So sweet!
Camry: A new bedtime routine started about a month ago for our five-month-old. Nate had Kaira for most of the evening, and when bedtime approached he put her in a clean diaper and jammies. He’d started praying over her before giving her to me (mostly because as soon as I’m in the room she knows it’s time to eat, and doesn’t have patience for a bedtime prayer!). Every night since then, he’s started the bedtime routine just like that. I love knowing that that is my time to go somewhere else so they can talk to each other, giggle, and roll around on the floor in her room. And I ESPECIALLY love listening to their conversations! As he hands her over to me for nursing, he usually says something like, “I’m in love with this little Biscuit!”
Nancy: He always has the coffee maker ready to hit “grind.” He brings me dark chocolate bars when I’m stressed out – or just because! He’s always ready to listen. He cleans up if I cook!
Nan: Among others, there is one thing that always stands out to me about my hubby, his unending patience and willingness to go to the store for me. Seriously, he’s so good about it. Whether it’s at the last minute before guests arrive, after he’s just come from the store and I forgot to put something on the list, or he’s on his way home from work after a long tiring day, he always, without hesitation, says “yes.” I guess this seems mundane to most and I think the reason I find it so endearing is because I’ve never been this patient or willing to do for others. It’s a small thing but it speaks ‘love’ to me.
I’m so glad to hear that romance is alive and well! These everyday acts of kindness are the foundation of a solid relationship, actions that truly do speak louder than words. To me, these guys are the real heroes – taking time during the day to let their special lady know she’s loved.
What’s something your special guy has done to show you he loves you? Let’s celebrate it here on InspyRomance!
Narelle Atkins says
Stacy, lovely post! My husband is on leave from work and has been cooking the most amazing dinners. Delicious and very healthy. Cooking and cleaning is the way to win and keep my heart, especially when I’m on deadline :)
Stacy Monson says
Wow, Narelle! What a treat, especially after all the traveling you just did. Gotta love that guy!
Andrea Cox says
Stacy, this is such a sweet article. Thanks for sharing all these stories of true love in action. It’s moments like those I look forward to (being single, I haven’t had much opportunity to experience things like that yet).
Those types of things are also what I like to weave into my novels. Like you, I can get bored if the love doesn’t feel real. Last night, I watched Letters to Juliet with my parents. It’s one of my favorite romance movies ever. There’s one part that makes me go, “Awww!” every single time. The grandson says something to the effect of, “At least you’d be able to skip all the messy bits.” And his grandmother pauses a moment and then tells him, “Life is the messy bits.” (Awwww!) That moment rings so true to me and makes me glad I get to write about the “messy bits” of life. And one day… one day I’ll have a husband with whom to experience those “messy bits”.
Stacy Monson says
Andrea, I just know God is preparing the perfect (okay, not-so-perfect) guy for you! It’s those messy bits that keep life interesting. :)
Andrea Cox says
As long as he’s the perfect-for-me guy. :) Thanks for your encouragement. I needed that this morning.
Merrillee Whren says
Stacy, thanks for the post. I loved reading all the stories.
Stacy Monson says
Weren’t they fun? I may have to do Part II next time because people are still sending me their stories. I love celebrating love!
Elizabeth Maddrey says
So sweet! I love seeing real love stories, too. :) Thanks for compiling them.
Stacy Monson says
I even had to do a little editing because some of the stories were too long for the post, but talk about sweet! We need to acknowledge our guys whenever they do these special things. (Note to self: do some of these for hubby too)
Brenda Anderson says
Love, love, LOVE this, Stacy! What perfect examples of real love, of love in action. Thank you and thanks to all those who shared their stories.
Stacy Monson says
Thanks, Brenda. I love romantic fiction, but I love REAL love so much more!
Shannon Taylor Vannatter says
I so enjoyed reading this Stacy. Romance in real life is sometimes so simple.
Stacy Monson says
Isn’t that the truth, Shannon? It doesn’t have to be big, expensive, crazy or loud. It’s the simple, sweet acts of kindness that truly melt our hearts.
Linda Fulkerson says
Thanks for sharing all those sweet stories, Stacy! Fun to read how big, tough guys can be such softies, lol.
Your blog turned out great and it’s fun to read everyone’s ‘everyday’ romantic gestures.
Oh that was a fun, fun romp through love! Posted on twitter and Pinterest.
Sherri Wilson Johnson says
This is such a great post! Thanks for asking me to be a part of it. :)
Gail Helgeson says
What a fun post. Leave it to you to think of it! I loved it.