I recently read a post on Club 31 Women about having a hot monogamous marriage. She wrote a lot of truth, but one of the things that stuck out for me is this:
The best romances aren’t necessarily as exciting or thrilling (and certainly not fearful) as they make it sound. The best are quietly lived out each day, starting in the morning with a kiss, working and playing, caring for the kids, fixing dinner, and snuggling into each other at the end of the evening.
We like reading the exciting and thrilling in our novels, and as a writer I like to write them too, but reality is far less titillating. We get up, get the kids dressed and fed, and most people get them out the door to school (unless you home school, like me). Often we walk out the door behind them on the way to a day job. We work all day then come home to throw something together to eat, help with home work or do laundry, etc., and maybe try to have a little family time. After all that, we go to bed and start again the next day.
But you know what, if we do it together, it can be exciting. It can be thrilling to be with those we love, doing things that we don’t necessarily like to do. It allows for intimacy.
Let’s look at intimacy for a second. Our society equates intimacy with sex, but that’s not only what intimacy is. One of the definitions at dictionary.com is “a
onnect on all levels–let your spouse see your vulnerabilities, and when he shares his, don’t react negatively. Appreciate that he’s sharing. Truly listen. The Golden Rule applies here–do for your spouse as you would have him do for you.
The blogger at Club 31 Women hits on several things that make love hot in a Christian marriage, i.e. monogamous. Here is the basic list:
- he cherishes her, and she respects him
You can read the full list here. It’s definitely worth the read for any married person, or a single person hoping to get married.
What makes your marriage HOT?
PS. I promised an update on my writing. I don’t have anything specific to share at the moment, but I can tell you this. I hope to get three or four manuscripts published this year, either traditionally or independently. I am working with several other InspyRomance authors to put out a boxed set. Our goal publishing date is July 1, so be on the lookout here for more information. I am also working on a sequel to One Choice, tentatively titled Second Choice. You can always keep up with what’s going on with me at my website www.gingersolomon.com.