Relationships fascinate me.
Let me be more specific. Male/female relationships fascinate me. Men and women are so very, very different — the way we speak, the way we handle emotions, the way we interpret each other’s words and actions, the way we face problems and stress. I could go on and on, right?
We see this conflict in the world around us. Neighbors divorce, an engaged couple splits up. Betrayal, forgiveness, hurt, healing — we see these events happen every day, and sometimes they happen to us.
Sure doesn’t sound very romantic, does it?
What I love about relationships is that they work best when the people in the relationships follow God’s Word. In every aspect of their life. Why do so many people in our world, our countries, struggle with relationships? Well, can we look at many of them and see that they’ve thrown God’s way to the side? I think so.
For that matter, can we look at many Christians and see that they’ve thrown God’s way to the side? Can I look at struggles I’ve had and see where I’ve thrown God’s way aside?
My books are romantic women’s fiction. I like to put people in really painful, tough situations and see how they react, see what has to happen with the hero and heroine and God before these two people can have a healthy, happy, romantic relationship. Which means that God’s way of living, the biblical way of living, really is the most romantic way. The happiest marriage and relationship is one in which both people look to the Bible for how to live.
And then live it.
That’s the hard part, isn’t it? We know, usually, what we’re doing wrong. When it comes down to it, though, we just don’t care. We prefer our own wisdom and methods of living. We don’t want to forgive. We don’t want to change the way our family runs. We don’t want to put someone else’s needs above our own.
Now we’d never say that, but sometimes our actions do, don’t they? We’re short tempered. We hold grudges. We practice the good comeback for the next time we’re hurt.
Is it possible to move beyond deep, serious hurts? Is it possible for a woman or man who’s truly been wronged to love their spouse again? To have a happy relationship again?
If we submit to God and do it His way, it is.
That’s what I explored in Homestands, a book about a divorced couple that’s brought back together by their son. They’ve both hurt each other. Both feel wronged. One has since become a Christian. The other has not. Is there any way for a couple like this to be reconciled?
Is there any chance for a story like this to be romantic?
I certainly think so.
Have you ever thought about God’s laws on marriage and the family — on relationships — as romantic? I don’t think I ever have until tonight. But the evidence shows that they are. God, the inventor of marriage, knows exactly what makes our relationships work. What makes us able to love each other. And that would make God the most romantic of all.
Has there been a time in your life where you’ve seen this for yourself? Where following God’s ways brought true happiness in your dating or marriage relationship? Do share!