I was talking to someone recently about how the person people see when they look at us isn’t always who we really are. Or, more specifically, it’s not all of who we are.
When that happens often enough, we can start to feel unseen – like nobody cares enough to look beyond the surface. We begin to feel invisible.
After a while, we reach the point where, when we look in the mirror, we can’t even see those unseen parts of who we are. We start to lose pieces of ourselves to an invisibility beyond our control and are left wondering if those pieces of ourselves ever truly existed to begin with.
Nobody wants to be invisible.
We want to be seen.
It’s not about getting all the credit, being out in front of the pack, or having the limelight shining directly in your eyes.
It’s about having someone look at us and see us for who we truly are. It’s about someone looking at us and seeing our heart.
We’ve probably all been there at some point or another – in that place where we feel completely unseen. Being unseen isn’t too far away from being unneeded or unwanted or unnecessary. That’s part of why it hurts us so much when we feel unseen, when we feel invisible.
This is one of the reasons that I love romance novels so much. In order for that romance to be believable, the hero and the heroine have to see each other – really see each other. A person can’t be invisible in the middle of their own love story.
Sometimes the characters in romance novels have healthy families, good friendships, and beautiful lives. There are sometimes, though, when they are broken and hurting and feel like they’ve gotten lost in the shuffle of life. That’s when being seen has the biggest impact. When a person who is used to people looking through them rather than at them is truly and profoundly seen. There’s a healing balm and a special kind of beauty and magic in that moment.
Have you ever felt invisible and then had someone come into your life who made you feel seen? Tell me about it. Or if that story doesn’t resonate with you, tell me about a book you’ve read where one of the main characters felt like nobody saw them…until that special person entered their life.
In the meantime, I hope you all feel seen today. If you don’t, remember that Christ sees you always, and His love for you is infinite.