Do you have twenty-twenty hindsight that makes you look at your own life and circumstances more critically than usual?
Do you think of questions that begin with any of these starters?
- It would be easier now if I had…
- Things would be different now if we were…
- I wish I never did…
Those things crossed my mind as we approach Father’s Day because I was thinking about one of my Savannah Sweethearts characters, dealing with parenting and days gone by. I am writing the eleventh and final book in this series, but in all eleven books, only one of my main characters has to become an instant or a sudden father (hint: Find You Again (Savannah Sweethearts Book 8)).
Speaking of days gone by, if I were to ask myself those questions above, I think I can come up with a couple of mild regrets:
- It would be easier if I had gone to graduate school as soon as I earned my bachelor’s degree and before I became a mother. Now that I am pretty much in retirement mode, I may not be going back to graduate school at all.
- Things would be different had I kept up playing the piano after high school. I wouldn’t be so rusty at the piano today and make so many mistakes…
Those are some examples that popped into my head. But don’t get me wrong. I am over them. The fact that God is still God regardless of the past, that’s enough for me. So what if I play the piano poorly? So what if I didn’t go back to graduate school? Exactly, right?
Romans 8:28 is my often-cited go-to verse in many of the circumstances of life.
“And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to His purpose” (Romans 8:28).
God is sovereign. He is always sovereign.
Since Father’s Day is coming on Sunday (June 16, 2019), I’ll pick Roger Patel, my main character in Find You Again (Savannah Sweethearts Book 8) as my story world example of someone with regrets.
If anyone could say, “I wish I never did…” it would be Roger. For many years, he has been trying to hide his secret sin, that thing he wishes he had never done. He knows what the Bible says about sins.
“But if ye will not do so, behold, ye have sinned against the Lord: and be sure your sin will find you out” (Numbers 32:23).
I don’t want to spoil the story for you if you haven’t read the Find You Again novel, but suffice to say that Roger is filled with regrets and he doesn’t know what to do. Ah, that’s when God sends encouragers and helpers, doesn’t He?
What about you? Do you have regrets? Have you gotten over them? Surrendered them to the Lord? And moved on?
So let’s circle back to the top of my blog post today. The new twist is this: Can you complete these sentences AND say what God has done to deal with them?
- It would be easier now if I had…BUT God is…
- Things would be different now if we were…BUT God is…
- I wish I never did…BUT God is…
In the case of Roger, I think he could say, “I wish I never did it, but God picks up my broken pieces and makes all things new.”
For me, I could say:
- It would be easier if I had gone to graduate school right after college, but God is sovereign, and graduate school was not where the Lord led me at that time.
- Things would be different had I kept up playing the piano after high school, but God is merciful and lets me sing hymns of praise to God anyway.
What about you? Have you encountered any twenty-twenty hindsight lately?
I would like to do a random drawing of names from the comment section to give away one ebook copy of Find You Again so that you can read the rest of the novel, if you haven’t already read it. This giveaway ends on Saturday (June 15, 2019) so please comment between now and then. Thank you!
If you happen to be a father, I wish you a Happy Father’s Day! May the Lord bless you and your family!