I don’t know about you, but I hate conflict. If there’s a conversation that involves confrontation of any kind, you can count me out! Knowing this about myself, I really shouldn’t have gotten married, huh? Lol. My poor hubby had to practice a LOT of patience in the early years of our marriage as I learned how to speak up, listen better, and work together with him as a team player. After 21 years of marriage, however, our relationship is so much better and stronger now that we know how to handle conflict in healthier and more constructive ways. So even though conflict is not a fun thing, there is good that can come about because of it.
Conflict is also essential for any romance. It’s what a story is built around. Readers, myself included, expect there to be a problem that keeps the two leading characters apart. Whether it’s an internal conflict, such as a fear of commitment, or an external conflict, such as a forbidden relationship between an employer and an employee, a good romance will have a conflict that is both believable and insurmountable. The fun part of reading a romance is seeing how the conflict gets resolved. What sacrifices do the characters make for each other? How do they change throughout the course of the book? What lessons do they realize about God, themselves, and one another as they learn to love and be loved? As you can see, the process of working through conflict can result in a lot of good, unexpected blessings in fiction (and in real life). Without conflict, we wouldn’t have the motivation to grow.
Does that mean I like conflict more now? No way, baby! Lol. But I don’t mind incorporating it into my stories and letting my characters deal with it instead. ;)
How about you? What do you think about conflict in romance? What do you consider believable versus unbelievable conflict? How much conflict do you like to see in a CCR? Please comment below and let me know!