Not every day can be an adventure. We don’t often get to live the fairy tale Sunday through Saturday, daily getting swept off our feet by Prince Charming. Granted, we may have our own personal Prince Charming, but chances are, he’s not always charming.
Just like anyone else, he has good days and bad days, and he has those days when he’s at the end of his rope. Maybe he got chewed out for no reason at work. Maybe the kiddo’s diaper exploded on him as he was heading out the door to a business meeting. Maybe he got lousy sleep or had a terrible dream. The reality is, though, that there will be days when he’s less than charming. He will complain about what you packed in his lunch. He will tell you he’s going to put out the trash and then forget. When you ask if he needs help with anything, his response will be to snap at you about something completely unrelated to whatever he’s doing. He will grumble and grouse about why nothing is ever where it’s supposed to be even though the thingamajig he’s looking for is exactly where he last put it.
The good news is that we’re no better. We don’t get to sit on our high and mighty horse and snub our noses when our other half is being irrationally cranky or irritable. We don’t get to mention for the umpteenth time that he forgot to take out the trash or — heaven forbid — that he didn’t do it with a smile. After all, we have off days, too. We don’t get enough sleep or wake up with a crick in our neck. We have days (or weeks) when we’ve forgotten that the vacuum has an actual purpose. There are days when we plop a $5 pizza down on the table at dinnertime because we had too many things on our plate, lost track of time, or simply couldn’t get two steps into the kitchen without something else demanding our attention first.
Sometimes life is just plain ol’ normal. Homework, carpool, sick kids or grandkids, bills to pay, laundry to fold, and a million other tedious things that fill up our days. That doesn’t mean the grand adventure of romance is dead, though.
We get to live the romantic moments while they’re happening in all their romantic glory. But the normal moments of life? Those are spectacularly special opportunities to see our significant other the way he wants us to see him. We can remember the epic romance, the beautiful moments, the outpouring of love, and the grand romantic gestures, but it’s in those normal moments of life that we put the emotions of those memories into action, where we back up our big talk and big feelings with ordinary everyday perseverance and love.
Nobody can be Prince Charming all the time, but when we give our husband/boyfriend/fiancé/etc. the benefit of the doubt — when we treat him like Prince Charming even when he’s not acting the part — we give him a special gift wrapped up in sparkling glitter paper (in his favorite manly color, of course). We give him the gift of seeing the beauty in his heart even when his actions don’t quite match it. That might just be romance at its best.
Besides, when two people are walking hand-in-hand through this normal life, nothing is isolated. Our good days run into our bad days, and our highs run into our lows. For every time we’ve chosen to see the best in our significant other despite any evidence to the contrary, he has chosen to see the best in us in those exact same circumstances.
Romance is present in those glorious, fantastic, big moments in life.
It’s also there in the normal, everyday, ordinary moments, too.
Here’s to a normal life and all the opportunities for romance it brings us!
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