My hubby and I are complete opposites. He’s an early riser; I’m a night owl. He’s generous; I’m frugal. He loves being in the spotlight and talking to people; I’m an introverted writer. You get the picture. ;) It’s a wonder we get along, but ironically and amazingly enough, the ways in which we are different are the very things that draw us to each other. We are like two magnets of opposite polarities that want—or better yet, need—the other person.
This doesn’t mean we always appreciate one another. There’s been a lot of head-scratching moments during our marriage as we’ve learned how to adapt to and accept our differences. It’s taken me many years to understand him and why he does things the way he does, and vice versa. But by God’s grace, we’ve become better spouses as a result and no longer drive each other crazy (most of the time anyway!).
Since I live the opposites attract trope in my marriage, I love incorporating it into my stories. I even included a real-life conflict that my hubby and I had over how to load the dishwasher in my book, Drawn to You. Sammie and Lucas are complete opposites; she’s a free-spirited artist and he’s a rule-abiding police officer. You can imagine the sparks that ignite between them!
Here’s an excerpt that shows just how well they drive each other crazy:
Lucas was learning a lot about the woman Sam had become, and perhaps she was right. He did have some misconceptions about her. Despite her unique taste in hairstyle and clothing, she had a lot going on inside of her that showed depth and—dare he say it—maturity. From what his mother-in-law told him, she demonstrated a great amount of patience in coaxing Lucy out of her shell. And her simple words earlier had reinstilled hope in his daughter’s heart. He couldn’t thank her enough.
He walked over and rested one elbow on the granite countertop. “You don’t have to do that. I don’t make my guests work for their meals,” he joked. “I always clean up after Lucy goes to bed.”
“No problem, I’m about done. I’m used to doing grunt work at my parents’ restaurant. I’m just not used to so much metal.” She aimed a handful of forks and knives in his direction. “We only give out chopsticks and a few serving spoons.”
He raised his hands. “Why don’t you set those down. I’ll take care of them.”
“Do you want me to back away slowly, too?” She took the heads of the utensils with her other hand and pointed the handles in his direction. “I wasn’t going to hurt you.”
“One can never be too careful,” he quipped as he took them from her.
She wiped her hands on her shorts and stepped away. “But one can be too paranoid.”
“I heard that, Sammie Koo.” He gave her a pointed look as he picked up another handful of utensils from the sink before bending over the dishwasher. He took care in placing each fork, spoon and knife into different slots of the utensil holder.
Sam scowled. “Are you sorting them by type?”
He dropped the last spoon into place and straightened. “Of course. It makes the process of putting them away more efficient.” He grunted, then picked up a plate from the lower rack and placed it on the top one. He rearranged the rest of the dishes until all the plates and bowls faced the same direction. With a satisfied smile, he added a detergent packet, closed the door, and turned the machine on. “All set.”
Crossing her arms over her halter top, she glared at him.
“What? What’s wrong?”
“I spent ten minutes loading the dishwasher and you just changed it all. What was wrong with the way I did it?”
“Nothing. I just have a certain method that makes sense to me.”
“My way wasn’t good enough?”
“I didn’t say that. But, to be honest, my way is better.” He couldn’t help it. Goading Sam was not the most mature thing for him to do, but it was so enjoyable. And the way her cheeks flushed in annoyance made her look even more beautiful.
Can’t you just feel the sparks? :) Sammie and Lucas are one of my favorite fictional couples, probably because they remind me so much of my hubby and me.
Tell me, do you believe opposites attract? I’d love to hear what you think! I look forward to reading your answers.
Giveaway: I’d like to give away one digital copy of Drawn to You. One winner will be randomly chosen from the comments below. The giveaway will remain open until midnight on Sunday, February 18th.