It’s an age-old question. Why do we fall in love? I don’t know if there is an answer to that. The answers are as varied as there are people in love. It’s more than common interests, it’s more than compatibility. It’s complicated, and I’m not sure there’s really an answer.
One thing I am finding more and more fascinating is how people meet online and and fall in love after answering some questions, and the computer suggests a number of people to meet in person, and one of those becomes “the one”.
I think that computer knows more than most people about falling in love. I’d like to meet that computer.
But another age-old question is, how do we stay in love? In a relationship that spans time so many things can and do go wrong. But also, so many things that were right, even with pressures and stress, stay right. It also takes work, and patience, and most of the time, a realization that we are not perfect, and that other person also is working at the relationship, to keep it stable, sane, and hopefully, still fun, despite the pressures of life.
Here’s a photo of a young couple in love. It’s funny, now that I think about it. In my current book – The Best Man’s Secret – the hero and heroine meet during a bank robbery.
In this photo, the couple (my oldest son and his girlfriend) met when they both worked at a mall, and the jewelry store in the mall was robbed – an armed robbery – and the mall was evacuated. The staff had to wait in the parking lot for the police to allow everyone back into the mall. No one was shot, but the point is that they met at an armed robbery – similar to the way Dave and Ashley met in The Best Man’s Secret.
I didn’t think of that when writing the book. Maybe I should have.
But while you’re looking at this photo, you might think, look at that guy in the back doing a photo bomb.
Well, that guy is my husband. Maybe that’s why I still love the guy. He’s still got it. Maybe that’s why I fell in love with him, so many years ago.
Why did you fall in love?
Andrea Cox says
Gail, I love this article, especially the end when you wrapped it up by letting us know the photo-bomber is your husband. Brilliant!
The only love of my life right now is Christ. My husband-to-be has yet to make his initial appearance (as far as I know). The waiting to fall in love phase is SO HARD. But I’m learning a new phase of patience each day God tells me “Not yet, My daughter.” My faith gains strength every day, and I’m trying to focus on leaning into God more and more. And I’m really anxious to meet that guy who will be THE ONE and begin our together journey.
Valerie Comer says
When I look back to high school and the young guy that caught my attention, I’m not sure how he managed it. He was kinda cute, but wasn’t outstanding in sports, grades, or physique. But he was sweet and funny, and I’ve gotten rather attached to him in the last 34 years!