Romance stories have permeated culture from the beginning of time. Whether you’re looking within Greek mythology or Shakespearean plays or modern-day movies — romance is everywhere!
In 2021, it was the second most popular genre of books sold — and most of the others include romance subplots as a matter of course!
Of all human experiences, what is it about falling in love that captures our imagination over and over again, in flavor after flavor?
Women especially LOVE to watch and read about people falling in love. But why? What is it about that journey from friends to forever (or enemies to true love, or a marriage of convenience that turns into something real) that makes us turn the pages late into the evening? Why do readers of all ages still read stories about falling in love?
Why do I continue to read romance novel after romance novel, despite having married the most wonderful man 11 years ago? It’s definitely not because I don’t love him. I found my happily ever after — and I don’t especially want to do it again!
There is something about walking alongside characters as they fall in love. Those wonderful tense moments before a first kiss still thrill me. Reading the characters finally admit that they can’t live without each other? Still gives me all the warm fuzzies. Even watching them inevitably make a huge mistake and walk away when everyone knows they belong together… it makes me angst for them in the best way.
I remember reading the book “Captivating” when I was a teenager. It’s by John and Stasi Eldredge. One of the things I remember connecting with deeply in that book was their discourse on the longing for romance. How God created us to long for those romantic connections — because truly, that longing for connection is a longing for him.
“In the spacious love of God, our souls can lie down and rest. This love from him is not something we must struggle for, earn, or fear to lose. It is bestowed. He has bestowed it upon us. He has chosen us. And nothing can separate us from his love. Not even we, ourselves. We are made for such a love. Our hearts yearn to be loved intimately, personally, and yes, romantically. We are created to be the object of desire and affection of one who is totally and completely in love with us. And we are.”
One of the things I love about Christian romance as a genre specifically is how the romance — the pursuit, the emotional intimacy, and the promise of forever — mirrors the Great Romance between Jesus and us, his bride, the church.
God made me to desire and enjoy romance — partly so that I would ultimately desire and relish being loved by him.
For some, romance novels may act as a poor substitute for an eternal relationship with the Lord — trying to fulfill that hardwired need for love and connection with book after book… For those of us who know Jesus, though? Romance novels can be sweet entertainment that also serve as a pointer to a greater love story. I never feel guilty about reading a Christian romance novel, as long as I’m not neglecting time in Scripture because of it.
One of the things I love about InspyRomance is that the admins are so careful in selecting the authors who blog here. They make sure the books are not only well-written, but also that the romance has a spiritual aspect to it as well.
Comment below with your favorite book from an InspyRomance author! What do you think about what I said above… Do you think God made us to love romance?
I didn’t contribute any paperbacks to the big Back to School Bash giveaway (oops!), so I’ll give one commenter a paperback (US only, international ebook) copy of one of my books! Comments also count as an entry into the Back to School bash. Be sure to check out the previous posts for more info.